Honeymoon fund instead of gifts

Not tacky at all - we are doing the same! Check out Traveler’s Joy and Hitch’d for honeymoon registries.

Some people view honeyfunds negatively, as it can be considered rude to ask for money outright. On top of that, any honeyfund charges a fee for being the middle man. If you just want cash, the easiest thing to do is to just not register for any gifts. Guests often default to giving cash or a check in a card at the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!!!!

It’s super common now to do honeymoon registries instead of regular gifts! There will probably be a guest or two who don’t like it, but that’s their deal not yours. Most of the wedding websites now let you add a cash fund to your registry right on the site. We used the Knot, which does that. It let us put an intro which let us make a few jokes about why we don’t need gifts (have lived together for years now and have everything, plus his daughter breaks/stains everything she touches so please don’t get us something nice and new), and we set it up by experience so it’s not so “pay to come to our wedding” (so we picked out tours and experiences we want to do so people can gift us like admission to a museum, a cooking class, etc).

View Quoted Comment Ooo I love that!

It’s impolite to ask for cash outright. A number of social circles view cash gifts and honeymoon registries as impolite. While they are becoming a minority, many people still give physical gifts and quite a few will give something physical if there is no registry because cash/honeymoons are taboo in their social groups.


When someone asks where you are registered, then you can mention the honeymoon fund. But do not say anything on invitation or websites. And you also cannot get upset if someone chooses not to participate for personal reasons.

It used to be considered impolite, but couples are now older and more established when they get married, so the opinion is quickly changing. If you're in your mid-30s like we were, you (hopefully!) don't need a dish rack. I would say, post the cash registry on your registry website but then have alternatives for people who don't want to give you cash. We upgraded our vacuum cleaner and some of our everyday dishes, for instance. And when people asked us what we wanted directly, we told them we wanted cash for our honeymoon.

My partner and I have been living together for 7 years and have everything we need for our household. We decided to only ask for money for our honeymoon to Japan and when I asked my family about it, they agreed that it made sense. On our wedding website I have this written in the registry tab:

We ask only of your love and presence, but if a present is your desire, we would be honored with a cash gift to help us save up for our honeymoon to Japan!

There will be a card box at the wedding reception, but if you wish to support us digitally here are a few ways:

Venmo: (venmo name)

Paypal: (paypal email)

View Quoted Comment I love that!

That’s what me and my fiancé are doing. My mom
Is the one who came up with the idea

I wouldn't say it's tacky... just a little forthcoming. If someone is giving you a gift, I just feel like someone should decide how generous they wish to be. I completely understand though where you're coming from and I'm honestly jealous I didn't think of a honeymoon fund. But no, not tacky. You could either get a thousand gifts you probably won't use or you could get money for an amazing adventure with your soon-to-be partner!

Be careful with this question LOL there are a LOT of strongly-opinionated folks on this site who get very testy when this is brought up! Personally, I see nothing wrong with it; I don't understand why so many people think it's "tacky" to tell your guests you'd prefer cash towards experiences or funds, vs. a registry full of junk you're told you should put on there but don't want or need! I'm going to include both on mine, probably through Zola as you can build a traditional registry, link other registries, and set up a cash fund for basically whatever you want! For instance, I'm going to add a spot for folks to contribute toward my bouquet preservation, should they choose to. And if they don't? That's fine, I'm prepared to pay for it myself!! But having a little help, and asking for something that I truly want and will enjoy, certainly doesn't hurt. If you have the right people in your life/circle, they either won't care either way or will gift you whatever they want anyways haha!

That’s what I’m requesting because we don’t need anything for our house