Donna
Savvy December 2020

Honeyfund & the like...

Donna, on November 20, 2019 at 1:25 PM Posted in Registry 0 12
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My FH and I already live together and were thinking of just doing a Honeyfund registry or another registry like that for our honeymoon. Is anyone else doing this or has anyone done this and what are the pros and cons? I know most take a portion of the funds which isn't ideal. Otherwise we probably just won't register. Thanks ladies!

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  • Sarah
    VIP September 2019
    Sarah Online ·
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    We just didn’t register and we got all cash and checks for our wedding. One con to consider on top of the fee is that usually people will donate to a honeyfund close to the wedding so if you’re leaving right away, you’ll have to spend the money upfront for any honeymoon plans anyway.
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  • Vannesa
    Devoted October 2021
    Vannesa ·
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    Asking for cash when everyone knows that's probably the best gift is a little rude. People know cash is the best gift and not having a registry will just prompt your guests to being a card with cash/ check.


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  • Donna
    Savvy December 2020
    Donna ·
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    Ooh! good point!

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  • Lyndsay
    Dedicated September 2020
    Lyndsay ·
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    I've never heard of honeyfund!

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    It depends on your crowd. For my family & friends personally, they would think it's super tacky to ask outright for cash or money. My husband didn't want to do one solely because you have to pay fees. In my opinion, if you just want cash then skip a bridal or couples shower and don't register at all. People will get the hint and gift cash.

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  • Christine
    Expert September 2020
    Christine ·
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    We're doing a honeymoon fund through Zola that's split into a bunch of individual cash funds for each item - flights, lodging in particular cities, meals, various day trips, etc. If you want to use an online cash registry, look for ones that have the lowest fees - Zola and The Knot charge a small fee for the credit card transaction (2.5%) but they aren't profiting off the fee at all. They're by far the lowest fees I've seen. Zola lets you choose if you want to pay the 2.5% transaction fee or have your guests pay it, which is nice.


    I'd say that most guests know cash is the best gift, but not all. It's a know-your-circle thing. There are a lot of people out there who will say, "Oh, the bride and groom didn't register! I'll give them an Instapot, everyone loves those!" The honeymoon fund can help mitigate that a bit, and it also makes it easier for guests to contribute since they can just send a gift beforehand using their credit card (as opposed to writing a check or withdrawing money from an ATM).

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  • Erin
    Super June 2021
    Erin ·
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    I’m using Zola for our registry. They have a section for “funds”. I’m adding a house down payment fund that people can donate to.
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  • Kelsie
    Dedicated March 2020
    Kelsie ·
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    We registered at Bed Bath and Beyond and Amazon, but we are also giving our guests the option of contributing to our honeymoon. I didn't want to set up an account for this. So what we did is on the Registry page on our wedding website, we stated that we have a honeymoon fund and they could write a check to my fiance and mail it to him. I put his address on that page for their ease. This way you get to keep all of the money!

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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I did this and they all do deduct a percentage fee when you transfer the money to your account. I would say people were more inclined to buy me the activities I itemized rather than just donating to the general cash fund but overall the amount of people who utilized it to gift me vs writing a check or giving cash was low. So I'd also do as pp said and forego it.
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal Online ·
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    Honeyfunds ONLY benefit the honeyfund provider!!!!!!!!! They charge a percentage of the guests' gifts, and guests do not actually buy you any activities (so this is very misleading to uninformed guests and if they figure it out, they might find it very rude); and in most cases you don't get the money until after your wedding. Beyond that, some guests will find it very offensive to have any registry that asks for cash. If you want cash, just don't register! Most guests will likely gift you cash/checks, if they are so inclined. Those who want to buy a physical gift will do so, regardless of whether you have any kind of registry or not, so you're probably better off actually registering for some physical items you'd like to upgrade. Daughter's older, more "traditional" guests, gave them cash or checks ranging from a couple hundred to a thousand dollars as gifts, without her "asking/suggesting" anything! Those same guests are the type to be most likely offended by cash registries. Why would you want to potentially offend those more likely to give you larger financial gifts?

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  • M
    Expert September 2020
    Marcia ·
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    We registered for amazon gift cards along with items. That way guests have a choice:
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Used Honeyfund and the small fee was well worth it.
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