Honey fund?

All websites take a percentage. That’s how they survive as a business. Just don’t register for gifts and people will give you money.

Don’t register for gifts and skip having a shower. People will give you cash without a tacky honeyfund website or poem. A honeymoon is a vacation and your guest shouldn’t have to pay for it.

Warning: this forum is notorious for people saying these honeyfunds are tacky (and sometimes in not so nice words).
If this is what you want to set up instead of a registry, then do it and delete the post so you dont have to suffer the mob mentality.
My take? If someone is offended you have a honeyfund, well guess what, they dont have to contribute and they can buy you whatever they like or nothing at all.

I have a honeyfund set up (through honeyfund), and I hate the people call it tacky because honestly we don't want more stuff, we don't want more things, and we don't want "upgrades" ... We want an experience, we want a way to wind down after all the stress if over, we want to have a trip...
These are becoming more popular. My dad actually called me and asked what they need to do for my cousin who also has one set up and I told him give him a cash or check, so they don't lose a percent of your gift!
I think as marriage between people who live together becomes more common it is more acceptable.
Registries used to be thought of as tacky, but they exist to fill a need.. basically to avoid getting 3 salad spinners when you don't even know what a salad spinner is let alone how to use it or why you need it... As do honeyfunds! They fill a need for a couple that is comfortable with where they are and with their stuff.

Good luck! Sorry there are sooo many nay sayers!

We got a box that says honeymoon fund on it, we aren’t using any websites

As pps said, people on this site are going to give you a lot of crap about this but I don’t understand why. The whole point of a registry is asking for things you need. If what you “need” is help on your honeymoon, I don’t understand how that’s wrong. If guests don’t like it they don’t have to give it to you, just like if a guest doesn’t like a blender you registered for, they don’t have to get you that either. The point of a registry is to let guests know what you want! Just make sure not to put anything about this on your invite, only list it on the registry page of your wedding site. Putting it on the invite can come off a little tacky.

Personally we are asking for honeymoon money for our wedding because that’s what we need more than anything else, and we already have several relatives who have said they want to contribute to that before we even had it set up. We are NOT using honeyfund or any of those sites because they take a % of the money and they ask for your social security number, and that whole thing just kinda put me off. But we are listing this note on our wedding website on the registry page. “To start our married lives together, we will be departing on a 2 week trip to Italy where we will be exploring Venice, Florence, and Rome, as well as relaxing by the Amalfi Coast. The gift we would appreciate most would be one that can help us have this experience! We would love a meal out, a train ride from one city to the next, or a night in a hotel on our honeymoon!

If you would prefer to get us something tangible, we have registered for items we would love to have in our home, listed below.

Most importantly, we'd like to emphasize that the greatest gift you can give us is your presence on our special day! We look forward to celebrating with you!”

Though a lot of people on this site will disagree, I don’t see this as presumptuous or gift-grabby since the only people who will see it are people who have deliberately gone onto our registry page which means they obviously plan to get us something, and they obviously want to get us something that we actually want (hence, them checking the registry page).

If you wouldn't ask people to fund your vacation on any other occasion, why is it acceptable for a wedding?

View Quoted Comment I agree about the gift grabby part (as in ots not gift grabby because the only place our honeyfund is listed is on our registry page!!!)

View Quoted Comment I wouldn’t ask people to fund my new toaster on any other occasion either lol. Idk from my perspective I don’t see how that’s different

View Quoted Comment There is a big difference between asking for cash, and saying what you don't have. The purpose of wedding gifts is to ensure the newlyweds have a feathered nest. Not to pay for a unnecessary vacation.
The gift of cash is always welcome. There is no need to ask for it. I'm 4 days out from my wedding. No registry, no honeyfund. We have recieved very generous checks and thoughtful heirlooms. I can't imagine the reaction if I told people that instead of carefully curated gift, I only wanted money.

View Quoted Comment My FH and I have been living together for almost two years. There is not a single person coming to our wedding that is giving us a gift to make sure we have a "feathered nest." They know we have one. They are giving us a gift because they want to support and celebrate our marriage. Period.

This is why I am so strongly against this hardlined etiquettte mentality when responding to these honeyfund questions - etiquette is subjective to each couple, and this mob mentality about preserving archaic traditions needs to catch up to today's world.

Also, calling someone honeymoon an "unnecessary vacation" - which I saw in two replies here already - is tacky and rude.

View Quoted Comment THIS. THIS X 1,0000.

View Quoted Comment Preach hahahaha.

By that logic, aren’t all registry items “unnecessary”? Who NEEDS a fancy blender?

A honeymoon is an unnecessary vacation though. There’s no rule that states you must go on a huge (or any) vacation after getting married. It’s not tacky or rude to state facts. Also, no, etiquette isn’t subjective and the only people who view it that way are those who want to break it.

View Quoted Comment There’s also no rule that states that you need new kitchenware after getting married either. If a guest views a honeymoon as unnecessary they don’t have to contribute! Personally I know a lot of my guests have specifically asked if they can contribute towards ours. Etiquette IS subjective depending on how your guests view certain topics, such as this one. ie it’s also “rude” to not provide alcohol at your wedding but if you know that your guests don’t drink, it’s not bad etiquette to not provide alcohol. Everyone’s situation is different and making hard rules about what is “acceptable” and what is not, just doesn’t apply to all situations

All websites take a percentage, or they wouldn't be in business. I just wouldn't register. People will get that you want money.