His job my sanity

You need to be honest! One of my best friends was in a similar situation. His (now ex) wife was not honest about her feelings in him taking a new job requiring him to travel a lot and they are now divorced. Don't tell him he can't take the job, just tell him the pro's and con's you see in it and how you would prefer that he stay closer to home. This is something you two should easily be able to compromise on.

I would definitely talk to him about it rather than just saying no. Like others have said, weight out the options. I personally would hate it.

Talk To Him And See If You Can Come To An Agreement. If Thats What He Wants To Do Then Good For Him But He Should Take Your Feelings About It Into Consideration As Well. For Example, Would He Be Leaving You Behind? Would You Be Able To Travel With Him? Etc. Etc. Both Me And FH Are Military And We Have To Compromise On Certain Things.

Please be sure to share your feelings before hand, because it might otherwise lead to trouble later! Just tell him how you feel. It's not your decision, but he should clearly take your opinion into account when making the decision.

I think you need to be honest. He wouldn't have asked if he didn't want to know.

I told my fiance that he was not going to leave me as a single parent to be a military contractor. We've already done ten years of sub-service and I was okay with him either continuing to do that or to go reservist, but I was not okay with him risking his life simply for a paycheck. I was selected as a Nurse Corp Officer but was diagnosed with cancer before I swore in, but that was a civilian role not requiring deployment.

The point is, that you have to be honest about what you're expecting from the relationship and what you won't be willing to compromise on. Not everything is a compromise!!!