He’s invited to Bachelor party trip but not wedding.

Cant you just say no to the guy being invited to the party? It sounds like you and FH didnt invite him sooooo.....

View Quoted Comment FH already said he can come to Party. He was kinda put on the spot.

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Ugh that's annoying!! I hate when stuff like that happens and your first reaction isn't "let me think about it". I kind of have a similar situation for our joint trip. Everyone coming in the bridal party and additionally is attached the bridal party except for one friend of FH's. He basically invited himself as well. FH said that's fine he can pay (we aren't paying any portion for the additional friends, only bridal party as a gift). I'm sitting here like no that's not fine it's kinda weird and he's annoying. He's not gonna vibe with the groomsmen at all.

I don't think the guy will expect a wedding invite, though who knows. It doesn't really matter though, if he's not invited to the wedding he's not invited to the wedding. No need to worry about it more than that.

We had a similar situation when a friend wanted to invite another friend to the bachelor party. Mostly because it was a small group and he was trying to add more people. I didn’t like it but I didn’t have a problem with it either I just made it clear I did not want this person at our wedding. Simply because I don’t like him and he brings a lot of drama when he’s around. So as long as him not being invited to the wedding it was clear than I was ok. Mostly because it wasn’t my fiancé or I who invited him and our wedding is a destination wedding so I couldn’t add extra people after a certain point on the room block so that was a good excuse.
At the end plans changed and this guy was not even invited. I do not know if he was told of the bachelor plans but I didn’t pay much attention to it.

If the guy doesn't know y'all, then I doubt he will expect a wedding invite. Just don't slip up and accidentally invite him over a couple of drinks, lol.

I would have your FH reach out again honestly and just say he’s sorry but the trip is just going to be bridal party only. I can’t imagine the guy would feel very comfortable being the only one there who isn’t in your bridal party or even invited to the wedding? It seems like an awkward situation for everyone involved!

View Quoted Comment I told him to say no when the guy asked but he didn’t think it was a big deal and said the more people we have the cheaper the house rent will be. Which is false cuz the price goes up for each additional person you add , but he didn’t realize that. At this point if we remove him from the party idk if the price will go down or if we’ll still have to pay his portions since we already booked it.

View Quoted Comment Ooph that's rough. =/ I probably wouldnt invite him to the wedding. Maybe your FH could talk to the GM who invited him and just let him know that your guest list for the wedding is set and that the friend wont be getting invited.

Well that's awkward. Does he know the groomsman wanted him there not the groom?

View Quoted Comment I honestly have no idea. We texted everybody trip details and the GM was like “I’m in! Oh and can DL come?” I was in the middle of saying “who is that?” When my FH was already typing yes. It’s just odd. And I hope he’s not weird on the trip and at stuff like “where’s the wedding? What time? Do you need my address for an invite?” 🤦🏾‍♀️

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I don't think he will ask those questions, honestly, it's pretty invasive to ask that stuff but I guess you can't put it past people. If he asks, say that unfortunately you're keeping it to close friends and family because of venue limitations. It sounds like you and FH don't have a super close relationship with this person. Not to be mean, but if you don't have a close relationship with him then it shouldn't be an issue to just say no, because even if he's disappointed, are you close enough to care about that disappointment?

Maybe. If he was invited by a groomsmen & not the groom (which is weird) then probably not since he is more of a guest of the groomsmen. But if the groom was inviting him, then yes.

View Quoted Comment Lol I certainly wouldn’t care if he’s disappointed. I guess I’ll hope he doesn’t ask and if he does I’ll let FH take care of it since his groomsman invited him.

I wouldn’t invite him. He’s the groomsmen’s guest and you’re not friends. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter if it’s awkward or he thinks it’s rude cause you’ll likely never see him again. I wouldn’t worry about being polite to a rude stranger.

I don’t think you need to feel obligated to invite him to the wedding. Afterall, *you* didn’t invite him to the bach party

Just don't send him an invite 😁