Help! Covid-19 Bachelorette Party with Underage Bridesmaids

Even with your under 21 age bridesmaids you could still have a good time in general even if it’s not risqué! Are there any activities you like or wanna do? Such as spa days

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I mean, if you want a good giggling session, any age will happily do.

Can you have a silly cookout in a backyard? Kick the guys indoors, have the silly, goofy things, and just hang out?

We are having a good ol' slumber party for my bachelorette party. Movies, pizza, karaoke, games, and plenty of laughter! Pre-covid we had plans to do an escape room and waterpark resort for a weekend.

I wouldn't recommend reaching out to a friend with whom you've lost contact to throw you a party, but I think you know that. I also don't really understand having my heart set on a type of party that isn't possible due to the guests involved. Your friends/bridal party are who they are (underage and/or not comfortable with a "wild" party). You love them; spending time with them while celebrating your wedding is the goal, not something to fix or find a workaround for.

View Quoted Comment Pretty much all of this.
Also, not sure what your problem is lesbians, strippers, & someone else's sexual life. Stripping is a profession, not a personality. Homosexuality is who they are, it isn't a choice and it isn't "hardcore" and "wild." The number of sexual partners involved in their bedroom is none of your business and does not define them as a person.


Asking someone to throw you a party (in under 2 weeks, during a global pandemic) after having lost contact doesn't seem like a good idea. You didn't say how long the lack of contact is but if this person hasn't brought it up again and you gave "no one" as an answer on who to invite.. She likely assumed it was off.
Also, as Maggie said: the kind of party you want just doesn't sound possible with your bridesmaids being mostly 15 - 10 years old and the one 20 year old not liking anything risque (ie penis paraphernalia).
Also, having a bachelorette at all isn't guaranteed. If someone wants and offers to throw one then you get one. Otherwise, you don't.