Help! Complete devastated wedding ending

Truth hurts, but it's over and there is nothing you can do about it. My advice would be to put the anger away and move on. Otherwise, you risk building resentment towards your best friend and husband, which is no way to start a marriage!

If you trust that your husband wasn't doing anything inappropriate with the women (which you should, you married him!) then you need to let it go. If there wasn't a DJ or DOC announcement that the last song was playing, that's unfortunate, but you can't harp on that last few minutes of what I'm sure was a wonderful wedding. As for your friend's comments-you need to say something to her and mention that you felt hurt and that it was inappropriate and mean. But be excited and be married!

Hi Sarah, I'm sorry your wedding didn't end as planned. It's a little concerning that your mind immediately wandered to the idea of him cheating on you when you saw him with 3 women. I'd recommend some soul-searching on that for your own sake. That shouldn't be your first thought when you see your husband next to another woman, there should be a lot more trust in your relationship than that. I also wouldn't blame this whole situation on your friend. Your husband is his own person and like you said, HE went outside. No one made him.

As PP said, it's best to let this go. There's nothing anyone can do about it now and it's not worth ruining a relationship with your best friend or your new husband. Think of everything that went right on your wedding day, not the one thing that went wrong.

So, what were they doing? Do they smoke? Did they need air and didn't realize it was the last song? Shouldn't the one who was the photographer been aware that it was the last song and been coordinating pictures for it?

I mean, considering there were 4 of them, I don't imagine he was cheating, but it is a weird situation.

Let this go. I can't imagine seeing my husband with 3 women and automatically having my mind jump to "i know he didn't cheat". That wouldn't even cross my mind. There will be people of both genders at a wedding- it shouldn't be an issue if he was walking around with a female. Not understanding that one, sorry...
That being said, the hurt lies in the fact you feel embarrassed he didn't spend the last few min of the wedding with you. From what I've heard, time FLIES at a wedding. Did he know what time it was? Did he know it was the last song? Probably not- if he was outside socializing with guests (which he is allowed to do- and should do), then he may have lost track of time.
Don't give him grief about this one.

Since you've already talked to your husband about this, I agree that trying to just move forward is the best thing you can do. I'm sorry you've had to go through this!

I understand how you felt, but I agree with PP you have discussed it with your husband he has since apologize and you have to let it go. This way you guys can start on an even level filled with Love not anger, betrayal, resentment or hurt feelings.

Totally understand.... we had a destination wedding, reception and dancing in a party bus after. During the reception my husband left with his groomsmen so they could change because they "weren't comfortable" (Mind you they were wearing chuck taylors, khaki's and a cotton polo not the most uncomfortable of clothing) BOTH of whom are married (one within the same year) asked my husband to leave our reception. Because he left with them (they are adults if they needed to leave fine didn't have to take him) he missed his mom and sisters leave. It still urks me (I haven't hung a picture with groomsmen in the house AND we are both friends with them I feel like it's payback?) and it's been a year.

Mostly I don't let it bother me and when he wasn't coming back everyone in our suite did shots of the patron meant for the bus and H had to buy us a new bottle lol!! But when I think about it.... RAGE!!!!

And to address the "I know he didn't cheat" I just assumed you put that for no one else to jump to the cheating conclusion. I probably would have said the same if my H left with 3 woman. But he didn't just 2 overgrown toddlers.