We struggled a lot with this, and ended up only inviting coworkers who we regularly see outside of work. I had a few guys - one office mate and two mentors - that I was really on the fence about inviting, and I think they would have been reasonable inclusions without making any other coworkers feel left out, but in the end we decided to skip inviting people in that category.
I have been really struggling with this. In my specific office there are 13 people (not including me) and I’m pretty close to most of them so I invited them (close to 40 people with spouses/children included). Honestly I’m okay with that. I’m not happy about inviting one of my bosses though because we are not close in the slightest. Our relationship is formal/professional and I’m a little concerned with her seeing me drink and stuff but I didn’t want to leave her out.🤷🏼♀️ I also have other coworkers in the building that I talk to regularly at work, but we aren’t close so I cut them from the list cause my guest list was getting out of control.
I decided that I will not invite any of my coworkers because I will feel bad if I only invite some and not others. I feel like a few of them will be expecting/hoping for an invitation. I may need to have a conversation with them about how our budget is constraint and we unfortunately cannot add them to the list. I feel like it’s easier to have a no coworkers rule so there’s no dilemma about who’s invited and who’s not 😐
If they are invited to the wedding, you can invite them to the shower but you don't have to. Not vice versa though, don't invite them to wedding events if they aren't invited to the wedding. My boss & his wife, our receptionist & her boyfriend, and my coworker & his wife were all invited to our wedding. My boss's wife ended up coming to my bridal shower too.
None of my fiance's co workers are invited. I work at a much smaller office, and I will be inviting one co worker. My second job, I'll be inviting 2 co workers. But I knew both of them before I worked with them. And my boss is the ring bearers grandmother.
Of those 3, only the friend I've known for about 10 years will be invited to the shower and bachlorette.