Gifts from your wedding guests? (Mostly registry gifts or cash??)

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My fiancé and I have lived together for a year, so we don't need a thing. We are trying to decide if we even want to create a registry, but don't know what to expect at our shower if we don't have one. (obviously nothing is 'expected' from any of our guests) I've always been told more guests will bring cash and cards if you don't register. But I'm curious to see others answers and takes on this.

In our families/friends/social circles, registries are expected and cash gifts are never given for any reason.

Those in our circles who got married in the past said they received nearly everything they asked for. The rare few who didn't register received zero cash and got a ton of gifts they didn't want and couldn't return. Registering makes it easy for guests to know what you want and need.

Oh okay! I've been to a wedding shower that was a strict "Lowes Giftcard" party. The couple just requested gift cards as they were renovating their home. I've never been to a shower with no clear direction, so I see how this may could be awkward. Thank you!!

Agreed. Showers are (physical) gift giving events, not gift cards or cash. Browse Bed Bath and Beyond's registry checklist and see if there's anything you want, you need, replace older stuff, register for something fun.

I did not want to expect anything. I felt like it wasn't something I could and should estimate. In my culture though they purely give cash at weddings and so my husband said he was expecting a lot but i just didn't want to be in that mindset.

Same! I do sometimes look at the couples registry, but I've always typically given cash just out of habit and convenience. And as the bride, I would rather have cash than forming a random list of gifts I don't need, honestly.

We had a house warming party when we bought our house, so almost everything in our home is a year old. Sure, some things could probably be upgraded! But if we wanted a new blender or random appliance, we would get that ourselves as we needed to. We wanted new cabinet knobs and mailbox over the weekend so we went to Lowes and got it. We don't have enough things we would need to create a registry with enough gifts for our shower guests to go off of. I would much rather have gift cards or cash, personally!

I am yet to be married myself but the advice I have received personally was that if you have a registry, there will be some people who gift you items not on the registry, or gift cash, while if you have a wishing well/honeyfund, there will still be some people who bring a physical gift or not at all. In short: there will be some people who gift whatever they damn feel like gifting whether you want it or not.

While I haven’t had my wedding yet, we are expecting gifts from the majority of guests and we anticipate most will be cash. I appreciate that this may horrify some fellow Wedding Wire brides but culturally it is a major faux paus to attend a wedding empty handed. While a lot of (mostly) American brides I have encountered on this site insist gifts are voluntary, where I come from, there is an expectation that you will bring a gift.