Feeling guilty

Don't feel guilty! It's like telling people what you'd like but you're not "forcing" them to buy it for you. It's merely a suggestion, if they pick it up for you than it's not on you!

Dont feel guilty! Its Its something you want, and there's lots of other choices less expensive it sounds like. This is still a good gift to have on your registry. In my family, they would totally pitch in together and make it a group gift, which means its much less expensive on everyone. So don't feel guilty!

I totally understand your feelings. But like PPs have said, dont feel guilty! You're not making/telling anyone what to get, its all up to them and all on them!

View Quoted Comment Yes this I would just add cheap stuff on their to. Like bitter dish or towels we have luggage tags on ours. But don’t feel guilty.

I totally understand the feeling and am right there with you. On mine, we have a few expensive items (like a kitchen aid and a king size bedding set) and a lot of little things (like a $2 pie server or veggie peeler) and items priced in between (like sheets and a trash can). Registry guilt is a real thing! As someone who has a hard time asking for help or things when its needed and even harder time accepting help/things/ gifts, this is one aspect of the wedding I'm struggling with. I'm mean I want to do a registry, I know his family and that if we don't do one we'll be hounded for one or end up with 7 salad spinners and 12 Santa cat cookies plates.😆
So, your registry is a guide to help your peeps out in knowing what you truly need and by the sounds of it you've got a great range to fit and budget. Try to have fun with it (I even put a mini movie theatre popcorn machine on mine because I love that type of popcorn) and know that there are others that are right there with ya!

I felt a little hesitant about it at first to, but a. people will buy what they want to buy from it. If they don't want to buy you the expensive dining table, they won't. B. There is usually a completion discount, so a lot of people will put expensive items on there without expecting people to buy them for them, but because they want the 10-20% off of that item at the end. Also, having a lot of stuff on your registry is a good thing. It gives people a variety of items to choose from. You want to have more stuff than invited guests to make sure someone doesn't log on and see the only things left are a $1000 dining table or a $2 spatula and nothing else.

Don't feel too guilty your registry is ultimately a wish list and you are not forcing anyone to buy you these things. I have quite a few expensive things on mine and also a mix of not expensive things because I know some don't have as much money as others. I only have a guest list of 50 yet I have 200+ items on my registry so I know I won't even get close to everything on there but it gives plenty of ideas so people can decide themselves their budget to spend and go from there. Weddings are expensive including gifts and people are aware of that so don't delete things off your registry because you think it is too much you never know some family might pool their money together and get you that big item you really want.

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Right, anything over $50 and I feel like I'm asking for too much! So adding a dining table or dining set was tough, but we need it. Since we're moving out of our apartment soon and into an actual house, we'll need a table. So in my head it makes sense but at the same time, I don't want to come across as rude or asking for too much.

I felt the exact same way. We registered at BBB and even though we have lived together and own our own house, with the exception of my baking supplies, the majority of our small appliances, dishes, linens, etc. are very cheap and old. we went through BBB's checklist and added something for almost every item but then his boss, who I greatly look up to, took a peak at our registry and mentioned it was bigger than she had expected. I was mortified!! I went through and immediately started weening it down. I quickly realized we don't need a lot of it now (we plan to move shortly after the wedding and we really don't know what colors our new house will be) and we can buy a lot of what we want later on plus we are hoping to get at least a bit of money to pay of the bit of credit we ended up needing

If you don't mind me asking how many items are on your registry. Also I don't think there's a cap on what you should put on. I feel like it gives people a choice. but then if they don't get you the things that you need you can always use the discount at the end and get the items that you really really want.

I ignored most of these. We registered at bed bath and beyond, as well as Amazon. The woman at bbb kept trying to get us to register for more. I told her I didn't want to. I'm never using a chest of flatware. I won't drink out of crystal goblets etc. So now we have a modest one from bbb and random fun stuff from Amazon. Also Amazon let people contribute towards gifts.

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I don't mind at all. We have a total of 3; Zola, Amazon, & Walmart. I'd say there's an average of about 30 gifts on each one.

We have a total of 200 guests invited and we asume about 2/3 (140ish) are coming. Most of our gifts are around like the $20-50 price point and we have a few 20 or less and only like 3 over 75. But that also includes our "house fund" cash gift option on Zola

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I used Amazon for this reason! I love that there's group gifting! Zola has this feature too!

No need to feel guilty, though it is common! My mom's advice was to register without looking at prices too closely for this exact reason haha. FH and I have yet to register, but my mom works at Bed, Bath & Beyond and helps brides register weekly. It's always best to have a few more expensive gifts, lots of in between priced items, and several lower priced as well. And remember to "over register", I was told to have about double the amounts of gifts as invites. This is because you have to remember some guests will buy multiple items, such as your bathroom towels and bathroom sink set as a packaged deal. Thus, if you only have an equal amount of gifts to guests, some guests will end up having to guess what you want. Some people don't like giving cash, so don't assume that if they can't find anything left on your registry that they will give you cash, they could try to buy you something they might think you need when in reality you don't need/like it. I guess that's also why they have gift receipts though lol.

Dont feel guilty. People buy what they can afford. If someone wants to buy it for you they will. Otherwise they wont

Same! We started at BBB and online there’s a guide that tells you around how many items you “should” have in each price category based on that info. I was still hesitant though and my FH kept scanning stuff that we did need, but I thought was pricy. We were still within that number though. Keep in mind, not everything will be purchased and guests will like having options in case they’re shopping last minute (been there, done that and it’s tough when the only things left are expensive or things I think are boring gifts). Also, some guests might want to pool together to purchase a more expensive item (like the dining room table—something I’m registering for too lol). If you’re not using BBB for your registry, try looking up “buzzfeed registry guide” I saw something on there a while ago that had info on how many things you should register for and it was helpful too. Also, some stores will give you a discount on any items left on your registry after the wedding so keep that in mind too!

Girl, same! I have added things and taken things off because I'm like oh I don't actually need this, I forgot this, or I don't have enough things that are less expensive. But I know people will buy what they want to get for my fiance and I and there's nothing to feel guilty about!

Don't feel guilty! If I look at a registry and I don't feel like the items left are affordable, I just get a gift card. I assume they can use the completion discount and use the gift card toward the items too!

I know how you feel! I kept saying “no one is going to spend that much on us,” but in the end we just registered for things we need and want. We have lots of things $25 and under, then several at each price point $25-50, $50-100, and $100-50, and a couple $150+ including a vacuum. I feel like we registered for too much (like 100 items, and we’re only looking to have 60 wedding guests), but we also ended up registering for dishes individually because we have about 50 mugs and just wanted plates and bowls. The consultant pointed out that people expect to buy a place setting so would probably buy multiple plates/bowls. She tried to make registering fun, and it was the most input I got from FH regarding anything wedding related so that was nice. Now, I try not to think about it so it doesn’t make me feel guilty and stressed.

Also, FH used the registry to buy me a birthday present last month because a couple things I really wanted got discontinued- it was perfect. I’m sure he’ll do the same for Christmas, lol, he has to have a list or he’s lost!

I had the same feelings of guilt when I did my registry. I don't like asking for things so I was VERY uncomfortable with the idea of doing a registry. My sister ended up having to force me to put things on it but we got it done. Like everyone said, it is a good idea to do a wide range of prices because then people can pick out and purchase the items that they can afford. Keep in mind that people would prefer to get you things that you want rather than things that you will never use so you are helping them know what will be most helpful for you. It sounds as though you did a great job with it.