Feeling alone left out

Have you had a discussion with any of them about this? I feel like it wouldn't hurt to let them know that you're interested in doing some of those things as well. You did state that you never have anyone to watch your kids, maybe that could be a reason? I would just have a conversation.

Hi Anna, I’m so sorry. One of my biggest pet peeves in life is “cliques”. It’s really hurtful to be left out. If I were in your shoes, I would do two things - 1. I’d explore your own group by getting involved with your interests (ex: book club, yoga class, cooking club, etc.) in your local area. and 2. I’d look for opportunities to get with the group, such as invite them over for a family barbecue, create a girl’s night on your own and have hubby man the fort that evening, you probably already do this, but send birthday/sympathy cards when appropriate, if they have children offer to watch them, etc.
hope this helps and you find the right friendships within or outside the family 🌸💜🌷

View Quoted Comment Katie brought up some great ideas! Unfortunately, I’m guilty of doing these things- I’ve done that to my sister in law (my brother’s wife). Not because I don’t like her or anything. It’s just I honestly didn’t think of her. Sometimes I’m a little stupid! We’re planning a bachelorette party a week from Tuesday. My sister asked who’s all coming & I listed the names. She’s like “what about Stephanie?” Crap! Yes I reached out to her but felt like an idiot!

I second Katie's idea. I would just create your own group chat and invite them to do something. I think once they realize you would like to be involved, you will probably start being invited to things.

14 years is a long time to go without making friends. I am so sorry you feel alone all the time. Making friends as an adult can be hard, but it gets easier with practice. The best way I have found is to volunteer for things that suit my interests. Then you just naturally meeting likeminded people.

Maybe if you were able to make some friends of your own you wouldn't be looking to your husband's family to fill all of your social needs. I do understand wanting to feel including, but relationships have to be built over time, with effort on both sides. Other posters have given you good ideas on how to put in some of that effort. I hope it works out for you.