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Just Said Yes October 2022

Families on opposite ends of the country- pre-wedding party for one side?

Jenna, on October 10, 2021 at 11:07 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 5
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Hi all!


I'm from MA, my fianc茅 is from CA. We just got engaged in Disney this week while visiting his family. He has a HUGE family, and they are very family-orientated. He also has a large, very close friend group ("the boys" we refer to them as 馃槀). Meanwhile, I have like 9 members in my family, and we can hardly tolerate eachother. I have friends here that I definitely want to be apart of this, but there's almost no way I could see any of them being able to travel to CA. Currently we live in MA with my family, but we're thinking we should have the wedding in CA since so many of the guests are from there. We will most definitely fly out my parents from Philly to the wedding in CA, but were thinking maybe having a small pre-wedding party in MA for those of my family/friends here? We don't have a big backyard or house, so we would have to rent out a small hall (or if anyone has any other ideas for small, cheaper venues). It would be party-style rather than formal. Essentially, a little reception for those here in MA to enjoy with us. Does this sound like a good idea? What would you do? And if you would do the same, is there anything special you'd want to do for the pre-party? Thanks so much for all feedback 馃挍

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Latest activity by KYLIE, on October 11, 2021 at 2:18 PM
  • Fiona
    Dedicated May 2024
    Fiona
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    If you don't get along with your family would you be inviting them or just your friends? How many friends would you be thinking about coming to your pre-party in MA?

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    Just Said Yes October 2022
    Jenna
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    I would still be inviting them- it would only be more drama if I didn't, haha! So with family and friends here in MA, the total for the pre-party would be anywhere from 30-50 (off the top of my head).
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  • Fiona
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    That sounds like a nice amount of people to have a small party together. I think that would be a nice idea and it's almost like you get two weddings. Smiley smile It would be just if you could afford to do both and if you could then go for it Smiley smile

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    I would actually talk to them first before assuming none of them would be able/want to attend the wedding in California. I know I would be hurt with my friend or family member just assumed that I couldn't attend their wedding. Once you've talked to them and if you are right about them being unable to travel for the wedding then you could have it at a small hall or depending on weather a park would be lovely.
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  • KYLIE
    Super May 2019
    KYLIE
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    Honestly, I鈥檇 probably wait and have the party after your CA wedding. People might surprise you and fly out, and if so, you can avoid paying for two parties. If not, the post-wedding celebration can have pics of your wedding day and people can ask you about how it went, your honeymoon, etc.
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