Ceelie
Expert August 2019

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Ceelie , on June 10, 2019 at 8:48 AM Posted in Married Life 0 39
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So our wedding is in two and a half months, and we don't currently live together. But every now and then my FH will spend the night at my place such as last night, and whenever he does I sleep horribly! I can't tell if it's because I'm just not used to another human next to me? Or if it's because the bed isn't big enough? We took a nap in his bed which is a cal king and mines a queen. I slept fine through the nap in his bed, but not through the night in mine lol. Is this one of those things that gets better over time? How long did it take for you to get used to it??

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Latest activity by Becca, on June 11, 2019 at 5:49 AM
  • Allie
    Master August 2019
    Allie ·
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    It took about 3 months for me to get used to it and now I hate sleeping without my FH. It could be the size of the bed. For me, I was just overheating. We turn the air down super low at night and we both sleep really well.

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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    I can almost guarantee you're sleeping poorly because you're just not used to sleeping next to someone else consistently. I never used to sleep well with anybody, including FH! Once we moved in together, I slowly grew accustomed to sleeping next to him, and now I hate sleeping without him. We also have a queen bed, so I don't think that's the issue for you

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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2020
    Sarah ·
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    It gets better until you get to the point in which it becomes challenging to fall asleep without your SO next to you. At least if you're like me, anyway...
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I definitely took time to get used to my fiance especially with things like he grinds his teeth and sometimes snores.
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  • Mary
    Just Said Yes June 2019
    Mary ·
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    Get a bigger bed, keep the room temperature lower and get good sheets. You'll sleep better.

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  • Emly
    Expert June 2020
    Emly ·
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    I've been with FH for 2 years and pretty much spending the night together right off the bat and I still haven't learned how to sleep with him Smiley xd Melatonin helps for sure and a noise machine! He snores alot so I think thats my main problem, even though its tough its getting better day by day. Although I sleep poorly with him still I sleep even worse without him

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  • Melissa
    VIP September 2019
    Melissa ·
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    It will get better over time. We are both snorers and if he fell asleep first it would take me a little longer. We are both used to it now that we have lived together for over a year.
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  • Naikesha
    Super September 2020
    Naikesha ·
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    It does take time. The temperature does help as well. And it is also true you will hate sleeping without him.
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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    Odds are when you live together, you will get to the point where you can't sleep without him. I sleep fitfully without my FH.
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  • Talia
    Super October 2020
    Talia ·
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    Most likely because you're not used to it ! That gets better for sure as time goes on! I have a queen bed, we sleep fine.

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  • Katelynne
    Just Said Yes January 2021
    Katelynne ·
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    It took me a while to get use to sleeping with my fiance at night. I used to stay at his place on the weekends and often did not sleep well but after a few weeks in our place I adjusted and now it feels weird to sleep without him.
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  • A
    Expert August 2019
    Ami ·
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    You'll get used to it. I have a hard time sleeping without him now. We have a queen and two dogs share the bed with us, so I dont think that's the issue. I still have trouble with his snoring, but you just become accustomed to it after awhile.
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    My fiance has a full sized bed. Whenever I would stay at his place, one of us would end up on the couch. We just bought a house, and if I stay there, I sleep on the couch. I cant wai
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    *I cant wait for our new bed to come.

    It might be the size of the bed, but tbh, my fiance and I sleep ok in a queen sized bed, and we're bigger people than you.

    It could just take some time. My fiance is getting better sleeping with me. I snore and thrash around. Poor guy.

    Just take his bed with you when you live together. Lol!

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  • Furture Mrs. G
    Expert September 2019
    Furture Mrs. G ·
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    I never really had to get "used to it". I had tiny humans sleeping with me up to the point that I started living with my FH. & we have slept in the same bed for 6 years and when/if I go to bed without him- I cannot sleep right. You will get used to it Smiley smile

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  • S
    Expert October 2019
    Sara ·
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    FH and I actually have our own bedrooms and queen sized beds and that works out wonderfully 😂 hear me out.. we work very different hours and knew when we started talking about moving in together that it wasn’t gonna last long if we were constantly waking each other up and running on no sleep. We still do sleep in the same bed as much as we can and if we know we’re going to bed/getting up at the same time. And we both enjoy having our own space. My room doubles as my office so that’s convenient too. For us, being able to sleep well is important and helps us each function better so it works, it’s not for everyone. But we did what we knew would be best for our relationship and lifestyles long term.
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  • Brooke
    Expert November 2019
    Brooke ·
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    It took me a good 3-4 months to get used to sleeping next to someone else. Especially since I already get super hot throughout the night, so having another body close to mine just made that worse.

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  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    I’ve lived with my fiancé for two years and the longer we’re together the less we sleep together because it’s so difficult. Having your own comforter helps a lot and keeping the room cool. A lot of nights he ends up sleeping on the couch, not bc we’re fighting just so he can sleep.
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  • B
    Super July 2017
    Becky ·
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    It took us a while to get used to it, and we have a queen bed. The worst thing was when we were dating, he had a full bed, and sometimes when I would stay over at his place, he would end up on the floor lol.

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  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    It could be a combination of both. It would be a matter of time since you get use to it so no worries.
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