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Mandee
Devoted September 2020

Engagement Photo Crisis

Mandee, on October 13, 2019 at 6:17 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 4

Hey Y'all,

I hope this is the right place for this. My FH and I were engaged last weekend, but have been together ten years. A year ago on the 15th of October I was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer. I went though chemo and radiation and am doing okay now, but it made me gain sixty pounds and lose my hair ( I had gorgeous long black hair and was fit going into the navy when all this happened!) I've gotten extremely short hair back (think Snow White in Once Upon a Time) that's dyed pink for BC month and am still forty pounds heavier than I'd like to be.

FH is fit, handsome, and modelesque (and no, that's not just love talking!) and I am TERRIFIED about how mismatched we're going to look in our engagement photos. He looks great in EVERYTHING he wears and I look like a frumpopotamus!

Which brings me to my question:

I need outfit suggestions. One idea I have is him in his Navy Camis with me in a white dress with red heels (vintage/rockabilly style), but I'm lost on a second idea. I also have no plans on WHERE to have the photos taken! We don't really have a 'special place' outside of restaurants and we moved from the house we spent the last seven years in! Honestly this is stressing me out more than anything outside of dress shopping!


Help!!!


4 Comments

Latest activity by Tara, on October 18, 2019 at 9:53 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis, but glad that you're doing well now. Your FH clearly loves you no matter what and proposed to you exactly the way you are now. I'm sure that you're absolutely rocking the short pink hair, but if you aren't feeling it for engagement photos, you have a year to get that figured out. Engagement pictures don't have to be taken right away. You can work on growing your hair out, checking out head wraps, maybe consider a wig if it would boost your confidence. As far as photo locations, you mentioned in your other post that you're from Florida. Would you consider a beach session? You can also ask your photographer for tips. We didn't take ours anywhere that was special to us. We went to a park and a super cute ice cream shop that our photographer suggested. Since you're wearing a dress for one outfit, I would do something more casual for the second one. It really depends on the season, but I would consider shorts or jeans with a nice top.

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  • S
    Beginner August 2021
    Samantha ·
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    I know it sounds strange, but where I am a lot of people get pictures done in cemetaries, just because they're beautifully maintained and have gorgeous scenery. I'm not sure if this is normal anywhere else though.
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  • Laura
    Champion June 2010
    Laura ·
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    I agree with Caytlyn about asking your photographer for recommendations for the location for your photos. He/she will likely have some favorite spots to shoot.

    Try not to worry about looking mismatched. Try to remember that when that handsome FH of yours looks at you, he sees the beautiful, strong woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with! You're going to look great and make some beautiful pictures together! Smiley heart

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  • Tara
    VIP November 2016
    Tara ·
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    First of all, girl congratulations!!! You are a survivor and already BA. I know as women we are normally very self-conscious and body shame ourselves, I can't even imagine what you're going through and how you feel. I would recommend in terms of location, find a photographer you like that you're comfortable around. I am sure they can make some recommendations! Maybe a local university or park? I know it's easier said than done, but your FH will think you look great no matter what you wear or where you take the photos. With that in mind, I'd say find something that you feel comfortable in. I wore a white lace shirt with jeans and a jean jacket as one of my outfit choices. Find something you feel good in, jeans, a dress, a skirt, whatever it is! I like the idea of a white dress and red shoes, that's cute! (check out Amazon, they literally have everything!) But for your second outfit, maybe put him in something he wears outside of uniform that he's comfortable in, jeans and a casual button-up or polo or a nice sweater, whatever. For you, i found these pictures that I hope might help! One is from my engagement to show you my outfit... But you'll notice in these few I found they're closer up. That might help with feeling less self-conscious. Find a photographer you like that you get along with, that should ease a lot of your worries! And girl, for real, you'll look great no matter what!

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