Engagement party.

It's considered very rude to invite people to a pre-wedding event (such as an engagement party or shower) if they aren't invited to the wedding. It makes it seem like you just want a gift but don't actually want them to celebrate the big day. Ignore your FIL, he gets no say especially since you're paying. If he wants to tell these people you got engaged, he can post about it on social media or send marriage announcements after your wedding.

Parents can host family and friends whenever they choose that does not coincide with your wedding date. They can also announce your wedding to them, but that doesn’t give anyone freedom to invite extra people you don’t approve of. It is impolite to invite anyone to a pre-wedding party (shower, engagement party, etc) who is not on the guest list. If you and fiancé are paying for everything, you make the final decisions. Parents already got married and had the opportunity to do things their way at that time. They need to respect your choices.

Totally up to you girl! That may not help but honestly it’s your wedding. People are going to get upset about all kinds of things like not being invite or thinking they’re entitled to something that maybe you want differently. I’m sorry you are in this situation, keep holding your boundaries!! Maybe if you redirect and say if anyone has questions they can contact you and you can express that it’s more of an in intimate wedding and nothing personal for those not invited? Just an idea, I hope this was a little helpful ❤️

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