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Kayla
Savvy June 2023

Engagement party

Kayla, on May 2, 2021 at 10:44 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 18
Tell me if I am wrong. I would like to have an engagement party at a local bar and have everyone pay for themselves. My problem is I am not sure if everyone will show up. You know you get some that say they will be there but doesn't show up without a word.

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Latest activity by Kayla, on May 3, 2021 at 1:00 PM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah Online ·
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    If they are paying for themselves what does it matter? Invite whomever you want, and if they come, they come. If they're covering themselves, it doesn't sound like you lose money on their seats or anything.
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  • Kayla
    Savvy June 2023
    Kayla ·
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    I get that . That's why I would like for everyone to pay for themselves. My question is would I be wrong to have an engagement party and have everyone pay for themselves
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah Online ·
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    Oh ok. Sorry, i misunderstood. Personally, I think if you are inviting people to an event you are hosting in honor of yourself, you should cover the tab. All the engagement parties I've ever been to have been held at someone's house in honor of the couple (usually a sibling or parents).
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  • Kayla
    Savvy June 2023
    Kayla ·
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    I haven't talked to my sister in months, she loves drama. My fiance and I live with my grandparents so I don't want it here .. that's why I would rather have it at a bar so that way if my grandparents need to they can come home where it's quite


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  • Jess
    Devoted January 2022
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    I had a engagement dinner at a restaurant to celebrate and everyone paid for themselves . I brought a cake for dessert lol
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  • Kayla
    Savvy June 2023
    Kayla ·
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    Okay I wanted opinions cause it's hard since one person might have 1 drink and the next one might have 20.. (just a example)
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  • Rosie
    Master February 2022
    Rosie ·
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    I think it's fine. One option would be to split the difference and provide food but not drinks. Ie, order a bunch of pizzas and finger foods. You could even do this based on how many people actually turn up on the night, or just order in advance.

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  • Kayla
    Savvy June 2023
    Kayla ·
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    I did not think of that . Thank you


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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    Another option, since guests are paying their own way, is to make it very informal. For example, you could text your friends something like “Hey, FH and I want to celebrate our engagement, we’ll be at this bar at this time, first round’s on us.”
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  • Kayla
    Savvy June 2023
    Kayla ·
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    Thank you I also did not think of that
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  • Kk
    Devoted October 2021
    Kk ·
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    If you're asking everyone to pay for themselves, I wouldn't call it an Engagement Party. If you call it a party, you're expected to host it. Just tell everyone you want to go out to celebrate.
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  • Kayla
    Savvy June 2023
    Kayla ·
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    That is true
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    Expert November 2021
    Sara ·
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    I agree with Kristin. If you're expecting people to pay for themselves, then you're not really acting in the capacity of a "host" so I wouldn't call it an engagement party. Generally, guests shouldn't be expected to open up their wallets at pre-wedding events such as engagement parties or bridal showers. I would just tell people that you want to get together and celebrate with them, and simply not call it an engagement party.

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  • Kayla
    Savvy June 2023
    Kayla ·
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    Alright thank you. It's hard since I don't have friends to help so I am glad to find people to help me out on here
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    If you are hosting an event then you are responsible for paying for it.

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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    I wouldn't call it an engagement party since you're not hosting. Just call up your friends/family and tell them you want to meet at a bar to celebrate

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  • Kayla
    Savvy June 2023
    Kayla ·
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    Thank you . I posted this late at night so my brain was fried and couldn't think of another way to word it😂
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  • Kayla
    Savvy June 2023
    Kayla ·
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    Okay thank you
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