Are we being ungrateful? (Please be kind 
My mom really wants to throw my FH and I am engagement party. Due to COVID, the party would be quite close to the wedding date, maybe a month out. Of course the offer is so sweet and thoughtful, but I knew right away that they would want it at their house. My dad for some reason hates leaving their neighborhood unless he has to, and always wants all family gatherings/festivities at their house.
The problem is, their house is quite far and not at all convenient for anyone invited, including us. It’s about 1-2.5 hours away for everyone. Also, their house is tiny and not at all conducive for a group of people, let alone a large group.
When my mom even brought up the idea of an engagement party we were a little hesitant because we’re already so busy and stressed with moving, the wedding planning (which we are doing ourselves), working full time jobs, and running a small business. But I know she really wants to throw us something. I mentioned to her that if she wanted to host a party, that we would really prefer it to be somewhere around the city where everyone lives, knowing that having it at their house would be my dad’s default thought. She said she understood, so we agreed.
Fast forward to now, and they just told us they are planning on having it at their house. My FH and I are pretty annoyed.
One more thing to note: this would be the first time our families are meeting. My future in-laws live out of state and would be traveling in for this. They would be staying with my fiancé’s sister, who lives 2+ hours away from my parents. So they would be traveling 8 hours to her house, and then another 2+ for the party.
Is it horrible to re-ask if they can choose somewhere closer to everyone? We don’t feel comfortable asking people to go so far for an engagement party.
