Dress Reveal / Dress try on - Advice?

I haven't done this or heard of it ever, but I think treating it like a bridal shower would be fun. So mimosas, lots of petite snacks, etc.!

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That's what i was thinking! It definitely isn't one of the traditional bridal parties (bachelor or shower) but its a fun excuse to get together and have fun!

I remember your last post. Honestly, I think you should just tell them you found your dress and leave it at that. If they want to see it, and you want to show them, do that. But this whole thing (even if it was just a "trying on party" minus the games) just seems like too much to me. And kinda trying to make up for something...

You love your dress. So just move on to the next thing.

I didn't have those I really wanted there when I tired on dresses. It's okay. I sent them pictures and asked what they thought and that was it.

This is just way too much. I would hate everything about this and would decline going even if I was in the wedding.

I know I had a couple people I'm close to that wanted to see my dress (and I wanted to show them) so when we were all meeting up one night we just started at my moms house (where my dress was) so I could show them. I'm not sure about a whole party, everything else aside I'd be worried with food/drinks something you accidentally spill onto the dress.

This is a cute idea in theory, but how many people are you talking about? Would it be better to spend time with them individually?

Also there was a post floating around on here that was like did you keep you dress a secret or not? I read a lot of posts about how people showed people their dress and regretted it because it took away from that special moment when all their guest saw it for the first time. I showed about 10 people pictures (of my options including my choice), and I regret it so much... I want them to have that WOW moment seeing me in my dress for the first time!!! This is something I would really consider if I were you. Your dress may not be as special if too many people (guests) have seen it!

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I also think showers are awkward enough, I this might be even more awkward than that. Just let everybody be surprised!

If I were in your place, I don’t think I’d do invitations. I think it’d be more fun to just have a girl’s night with your nearest and dearest and try on the dress for them while you’re all hanging out in your home. Then you guys can just have a fun, casual night together where they also get to see your dress

I think this may backfire. If you have your top 5 and they all pick the dress you didn't you may second guess your decision. Plus are people asking to see your dress? My friends and family (other than my parents) didn't expect to see it. They asked minor details but I think people like the surprise at the wedding.

View Quoted Comment This was my first thought! What if they all prefer a different dress! I think I’m the person that suggested a dress reveal, but I meant like MOH, sister, mom or whatever come over for wine and cheese and you show them the dress. Not a huge ordeal. I mean this in the nicest way possible and I apologize if it sounds harsh, but this type of party to me is everything wrong with the wedding planning process. No one wants to play games guessing your dress. Or have one more Pre event ordeal. I’d keep it simple and low key.

Wow! Ive never heard of a dress reveal but i think its a good idea. I also love the invites, very catchy!

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It would only be 5 people, which i dont think is too many or will take away from the big day. I still have alterations to make to the dress (adding sparkle and color) and our wedding is a year away so i would hope they would forget (to a degree) so it is still a surprise on the big day.

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Its just a few people (5) and since I'm the first in my family to have a wedding where there is a dress, people are excited and i just want to amp that excitement up a little. A huge blowout party is totally not necessary, its just a few people, wine and cheese type of thing with a little fun game to make the reveal more fun and exciting.

If they all prefer a different dress then that is ok, i have my dress and i love my dress a lot. If i start to second guess, i can always exchange, sell, or buy another dress, but i love my dress because its well.. mine!

Thank you for your input!

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Thank you! I had never heard of it until recently either! Usually (or at least on TV) you take your bridal party and family with you shopping, so everyone is already there for your "say yes". Since i went by myself, i want an opportunity for those few special people to get to see it!

View Quoted Comment Oh with the invite, games, and everything i just assumed it would be more. 5 is reasonable. the invite is cute, but unnecessary. I wasn't trying to be discouraging or insulting, but give you an alternate point of view in case you hadn't considered it.

It's really up to how well you know your friends/family. I think the reveal part is fine but be careful about the second guessing part. My FSIL had a reveal for her mom and bridesmaids. She found a top 3 but the 3rd one was quite expensive. She only put on the first two dresses at first for the reveal but her mom and MOH loved the 3rd one and insisted on her trying it on for the other bridesmaids. Everyone thought the 3rd one was the best. She went it with, looked beautiful on the day of, but she said she liked the 3 dresses equally and told me that if I have a gut feeling, just go with it instead of listening to others. I've been having a hard time finding a dress that I love. So the moment I find it, I'll just put down a deposit, stop searching, and won't put myself into situations that'd make me second guessing myself. I would say do this if your dress is one of your top priorities and you want to make sure everyone loves it too.

View Quoted Comment Yes. It sounds like something I would expect from a pre-teen or younger girl. Buying a dress may be a big deal to you. But tv shows based on a fantasy , like yes to the dress, blow it up into something momentous. It is not. And the press makes money over revealing the wedding clothing choices of Queens and princesses, and assorted Royal family. But you are nit one of them. The dress you found is not of enough importance to other people to be a focus of a party. It will be talked about at and after your wedding reception. That is enough. It is great that you found a dress that you feel beautiful in. If you show a picture, or pull it out of your closet for someone who asks, fine. But the party will likely make you the butt if jokes and snide remarks afterwards, which would make you feel bad, and the last thing you want is any "bad press" about you or your wedding, or how you think you are a tv unreality show star, or a princess, thinking your choice of dress is a momentous thing for others.

I had a horrible "in store" dress shopping experience with my mother. So, when my custom (but online) dress came in, I had an unboxing/dress reveal for My FMIL and mom. We all got to see it for the first time in front of my giant mirror closet - right before I went to my first bridal show.

I loved it so much more than the "in store" shopping. We all had that moment together and it felt much more intimate. I wouldn't do games and such though. Maybe just plan another fun event afterwards.

I was so lucky the dress fit me perfectly right out of the box though. The dress makers did an amazing job off about 14 measurements. It would have been horrible if it did!

That sounds so fun! I wish I had done that, I picked out my dress without anyone there. I invited everyone to the fitting so they could see it but this sounds more fun

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This is great advice thank you! I will only have and be trying on the dress i bought, the rest would be pictures. I am firm in my choice of the one i bought, so if anyone likes one of the pictures better than tough luck. I tried on almost all of the picture dresses, and still bought mine so i know its the one. Thank you so much for the advice!