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Super October 2019

Do you feel a little sad about losing your last name?

Andrea, on September 18, 2019 at 9:39 AM Posted in Married Life 0 73
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I’m 30 days out from our wedding. I’ve decided to take FH’s last name. I’m so excited to do that, but there is a part of me that is a little sad to lose my maiden name. I’ve had it for 37 years. It’s a part of me! I’m super close with my dad and feel sad that we won’t have the same name anymore. 😕 Will anyone else miss their maiden name?

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on September 23, 2019 at 3:28 PM
  • Kelsy
    Dedicated October 2019
    Kelsy ·
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    I’m right there with you, I’m close with my mom and a little sad that it was not be my maiden name anymore, but happy about the new name. All these wedding emotions are bittersweet!
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  • Andrea
    Super October 2019
    Andrea ·
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    I know! It’s bringing up so many emotions! I’m so happy to get married, but it’s hard to wrap my mind around how much things will change. Darn feelings!
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  • Sara
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    Sara ·
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    I'll miss mine a little. It will be an adjustment for sure. Especially at work. I will have to get a new email address..set up new accounts with the new address, etc. and the transition period of getting people to use the new one is going to be annoying. Ugh..and I didn't even think about signing my name on letters and reports. I should practice. Haha.
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  • Virginia
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    Virginia ·
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    I still have my former married name because it is also my son's last name. I am sad to have a different name then him soon.

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  • M
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    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    Hell no!

    I never wanted my Dad’s name.

    I didn’t leave the 🏥 with it, so they should’ve just left it as it was.

    I even decided on a new last name, but never got around to changing it to that.

    I still would’ve kind of been where I am alphabetically.

    Met FH, problem solved.
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  • Jessica
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    Jessica ·
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    Nope. I've wanted to change it to my step-dads last name ever since I was 18 but never did. 8 more months and I will have a new last name!

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  • Annie
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    I’m excited to get rid of my last name!!!
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  • Kristal
    Expert February 2020
    Kristal ·
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    I'm excited to get rid of my dad's last name and this is seriously the only way to do so without upsetting my aunts and uncles whom i'm still fond of.

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  • Nicole
    Dedicated October 2019
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    I also am taking my future husband last name (40 days from now) ekkk and am wondering if it will affect my son at all being he will be the only one in the family with another last name? Does anyone have a similar situation?
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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
    Katie ·
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    I am actually excited about getting a new last name. I feel like with this new journey I get to somewhat become a new person. I love my parents but now I will no longer be in their shadow, and will get to start a "new life" of my own without the baggage of their name.
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    Neena ·
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    I’m so attached to my last name that I couldn’t fathom changing it. FH wishes I would at least hyphenate but I don’t think that’s a fair expectation. I feel like the last name thing is such a double standard. I’m all about equality in marriage and being fair so if he’s not changing his then I’m not changing mine. Tradition my bum
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  • Desiree
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    Desiree ·
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    I don’t feel sad but it definitely feels strange. Like others have said it’ll definitely be an adjustment.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I have an unusual last name, so I'm not willing to give it up completely. It's going to be my middle name after FH and I marry! On the plus side, FH's last name is super short and I don't have to spell much out for anyone Smiley laugh

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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
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    Out of 4 kids only two of my siblings share the same Dad so it was three different last names in our household. As long as no one treats him differently I don't see how it will affect him. Growing up my siblings and I didn't care about our last name because we knew no matter what it was we were still family and that would never change.
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  • Lauren
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    Lauren ·
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    I think I'll miss it, but I'm excited to get a new easy-to-pronounce last name! My last name gets mispronounced (or asked how to spell) 99% of the time so I'm excited to have an easy last name (Daniel). The thing FH said I'll run into a lot is people wanting to put "Daniels" instead of "Daniel", though, since Daniel isn't as common.

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  • Tiffeny
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Tiffeny ·
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    Just Hyphenate it! Thatll make it to where you can still have your maiden name and your FH's name as well. Best part about it is, you can sign any legal documents with either name!
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  • W-K
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    W-K ·
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    I feel kind of weird about incorporating FH's last name into mine at all. My last name is the same as my children's so I feel it's going to be just... weird. I asked FH if he'd adopt our name and he doesn't want to. I've been a W the entirety of my adult life.


    Surprisingly I didn't have these issues the first time I changed my last name. I hate my maiden name.

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  • Andrea
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    Andrea ·
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    I’m sure we will both fumble with that! I think it’ll take time to get used to signing a new last name!
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  • Andrea
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    Andrea ·
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    Awe! I can imagine that would be very difficult!
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  • Erin
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    Erin ·
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    Not in the slightest. I have almost the same name as a washed up pop star (1st name just spelled differently) and I got made fun of for it a lot growing up. I can’t wait to get rid of my last name.
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