Divorce after couples months of been marriage

Go to couples counseling

I second marriage counseling.

Definately agree with the other ladies! So sorry your going through all this and I hope it works out well for u and ur children!

I'm sorry you are going through this. He might just need individual counseling to figure out what his issue is with being married over being in a long term relationship. I don't know if there is anything you can do to change this. He needs to address the root problem.

Thanks lady's. I thought about the counseling but he needs to realize on his own that he needs help .I will talk to him about it

I'm sorry especially after the holiday ugh go to couples counseling.

Counseling. ASAP. Like yesterday, by the sounds of it.

Sooo...I know that the conversation sucks and is awkward..But can you get to the root of why marriage terrifies him...And also, can you dig a little deeper to yourself and figure out why you NEED to be married to him?

I think if he didn't want to be married again it should have come up long before now..Maybe you would have felt differently if there was no wedding.

Im sorry you're going through this, but you are married now....there is no "him realizing on his own" Suggest it, even make an appointment. Stay encouraged!

That's what I'm thinking. If he told me all this before it would of have been my decision to just stay in the relationship without married but after we got married in don't see my self staying with him if he go through with the divorce. It's humiliated to me

@OP, I would feel humiliated too. You're married; why divorce to stay together? It makes as much sense to me as it does for you. Counseling will hopefully get to the root of the problem. What he's doing is in no way fair to you.

Sending you hugs. Everything I would say has been said so just sending some best wishes your way.

Counseling and if that doesn't work, Leave! That not stability, and no one deserves to be on an emotional rollercoaster like that, if divorce is filed then its done. You deserve better then that and frankly I wouldn't trust him, if marriage scared him so much then why did he go through with it, sounds like some shady motives on his behalf

OP doesn't NEED to be married to him. Being blindsided by her husband basically saying "just kidding...I changed my mind" after only 3 months is not being needy. What he did is a slap in the face.

OP, like Alyssa said, you should feel secure in your relationship and he's broken that trust and security. Good luck to you.

I think thay counseling services will help

Thank you lady's. I'm devastating. No sure where I'm standing in feel so miserable and it's so complicated. We both have previous houses that we sold and buy a new one together I got rid of some stuff like living room sets and house stuff cause we have all double and now if I leave is like u have to start all over again. The house I had before I can afford the morgate but I sold it and now everything is expensive even an apartment. I don't know what to think or do

Right now I feel like you just can't trust anyone , people say they love you and then things like this happen . Do they really mean what they say what is going on

Consult with a divorce lawyer, you have a consultation just to find out what will happen, what your entitled to if he goes that route, and what the best options are for you to do to protect yourself and your children. You dont have to file for divorce to meet with a lawyer. This is one of those situations where you want to educate yourself on everything so your prepared.

I agree he (both of you) needs to seek counseling so that he can deal with the irrational fears he has. However, if he refuses to get help and try and goes through with it, it should be the end.

Did the 4 of you live together before you got married? Maybe it is an adjustment to not only living with you, but with your 2 kids, also. Definitely counseling is in order.