No gifts just money

You're right, it's rude and there's no cute way of saying "give us money". Don't register or have only a small registry. People will get the hint and gift money. Also, if you don't have a registry, no shower should be held.

Thank you i know it seemed rude,not trying to say "give us your money" but I think making a small registry would be a good idea thank you!

A small registry may be a good way to go. My FH and I don't want/need anything, but we have people who consistently want to give physical gifts only so we created a registry (about 15 things total with duplicate counts of towels). If you have a small registry that will convey the message without the need to come up with a cute phrase. You will find they don't go over very well on these forums.

Yeah ive been reading more of the forums and im liking the idea of hobby registrys or just small household ones!

There is no cute or polite way of asking for money, just as there is no cute or polite way of asking for any gifts.

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A hobby registry (as long as you register for physical things) could be a way to go. Doing registries for honeyfunds or date nights where guests pay for you to have a date/do things, the company cuts you a check that they take a portion from before giving you the money.

View Quoted Comment So agree with everyone posts.

We don't really need anything either. We made a smaller crate and barrel registry with maybe 20-25 things on it. Most of the things are bigger items (new pots and pans, new flatware) that we anticipate most people will not buy for us, but there are a few smaller things. We plan to use the discount we get after the wedding to buy our own stuff.

There is no cute way to say "give me money." You're right, it sounds really rude because it is.

You can always register for Amazon gift cards as well...

These are easy to do, and aren’t too pushy!!

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I would disagree that those aren't too pushy, guests shouldn't feel pressured to take their wallets out at your wedding at all. I especially dislike the bets on who will get cake in the face, but I just can't stand that tradition! I've told FH if he smashes cake on my face, we're done.

View Quoted Comment Oh no no. It's your wedding, not a school fundraiser. People generally don't bring cash to a wedding, unless it is as a gift. Those jars just become garbage recepticals by the end of the night.
People generally give cash as a gift, there is no need to remind them to do so. It can come off as greedy and crass, which can cause the opposite affect you desire...people giving no gift at all.

I thought I would have a super small registry. Mine will still be small. Once I started looking t were some cool things. A crock pot that you can set the timer for then it will go to warm. Plus art work. New sheets.

Just don’t register and people get the hint. Don’t say anything about it. A friend of mine did this and it worked out great.

I had a recent big birthday bash and I had no idea what to tell people what I wanted for my birthday. People got the hint and gave money. I registered for a couple upgrades for the shower but that was it.

Please, whatever you do, do not do some cheesy poem or verse about wanting money. I HATEEE seeing those! They literally make me cringe and I (nearly) always say no and DONT send money to the bride and groom (when I rsvp no, I typically send a check unless they’re telling me all they want is money, then I send nothing).
Instead, just don’t register and people will get the picture. Or register very small. I don’t mind honeymoon jars or the cake in the face jars, I don’t find those as tacky as sending a poem.

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OP, don't even consider going there!

View Quoted Comment I disagree, these come off as very tacky. The second you start asking your guests for any kind of money, its rude. A cute sign or poem doesn't make it any less appaling.

I think you have two options (etiquette appropriate). Either register for a very small registry (way less items than guests) to please people who insist on traditional gift giving, and the rest will most likely give cash. Or no registry at all, and some people still may give you physical items. You could always do a honeymoon fund or something like that, you just risk people being offended. I personally don't take offense to them, but I know some people do. We opted for a small Amazon registry (about 50 items and 220 guests) with things for hunting, fishing, camping, accessories for our dogs, luxury items we may not buy for ourselves like serving items or towels or whatever, board games, etc. and hope the rest will give cash.