Did you have an engagement party?

We didn't have one. They aren't super common in our friend group. But if someone would have offered to throw us one we would have done it but it's just not super common for us.

I did not have one, you don't need one.

We did not have one either!

We didn't have one but this isn't a thing in my social group

We had one and it was so much fun! It's not necessary to have one. It's really up to what you and your fiancé want to do.

Nah, I would definitely save that money for the more important things.

My mom threw us one and it was so nice! It was small, just our close family members. It was nice for his and my family to be able to get to know each other more!

I didn't.
I also didn't see a reason for one since I was going to have a shower and bachelorette and rehearsal dinner so it was a lot of pre wedding events already

View Quoted Comment Our families have met we all spent easter together. I think if we do one maybe just a nice dinner out with our family and close friends. Or maybe a bowling night(his family and mine are all big on bowling) and invite whoever wants to come. That doesnt sound too bad.

My mom offered to throw us a shower, and we decided to do an engagement party instead. They're not common in our friends groups, but we did a super low key drop in- drop out kind of deal at a local brewery. It was great to get all our friends and family together.

You definitely don't have to have one, I don't think they are necessary in this day and age when social media lets everyone know everything. We did end up having one but only because my fiancé planned a surprise one (friends and family snuck into the house and decorated/set out food and hid) for when we got back to our house right after he proposed. We host a LOT of parties and gatherings so I'm not surprised he wanted a reason to get people together! It was the first time our families met since our home towns are in different states and we don't live near either of them.

I definitely think a bowling gathering would be fun!

They’re not necessary. My uncle threw me one. He told me he wanted to do something for me and my mom was already planning my bridal shower.

Engagement parties are completely optional, don't worry! FH and I didn't have one, which was totally fine with me

We didnt have one- we thought about what we wanted to spend our money on and how to allocate money towards it. I think you can do an engagement party in a budget friendly way but we live in a tiny city apartment so hosting one is unrealistic

We had one and it was a blast! People are still talking about what a great time they had months later. Is it necessary? No but it was a nice excuse to get our families together and celebrate.

We met 10 months before getting engaged, and married 5 months after that. And aside from 2 dinners to meet his parents, we were not within a 5 hour drive til engaged. So his mom and dad wanted to give one for all of their huge nearby family. Hubby wanted it, because there were 5 of his first cousins and 3 siblings getting married in that 5 months. And he did not want their receptions to become the time to meet me, taking away from the couple's. That changed my mind ( I had not cared) because I realized it would be unfair the very next month at his brother, and 3 weeks later sister's wedding, for his parents to introduce us to 120 relatives. Like it was our party. So within 2 weeks, a Sunday when they have their memorial weekend all day cookout for any who show, family and friends, became our wedding engagement party. I thing his brother's bride, and his sister, we're very relieved. I would not be a center of attention at their weddings. FMIL was very perceptive, respectful of each person having their own time. I come from a big family, 9 kids total, him 14. And that means years when there are 2_3 weddings, 3_4 babies, in a six month period. In each close family. So recognizing boundaries, and making sure someone does not overshadow another person's special occasion is really important. FMIL said, designating a day for everyone to make a big fuss over you two, means it will be over and done before upcoming celebrations. Smart woman .

No. I didn’t want one. I’ve attended one in the past and it was awkward and unnecessary. The bride just wanted to get the bridal party together which I was not part of. There was food but honestly the whole thing was so fake and unneeded. You don’t miss out. If you want to celebrate your engagement then take a few friends out to brunch if you can afford it.

We didn't have one. We had a small get together with our close friends at a bar to celebrate but it wasn't very engagement focused.