Just found out today that I will most likely need to cut my guest list by 63 people! Also everyone will need to wear masks. I feel really down about it. I spent money on a videographer and photographer and I didn't want masks. We won't be able to have a walk up bar service either. 6 people per table 6 feet apart and tables in pods. We are getting married in MA. Does any one have any ideas to do to still make the wedding fun? Any extra add ons I can do to make sure people are still chatting and dancing and having fun.
Latest activity by Jamie, on April 9, 2021 at 1:24 PM
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June 2021
Annie ·
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Do you think the restrictions will change by your wedding and maybe loosen up?
I think people will still mingle at your wedding despite the rules. If you can't do normal wedding activities, I think it's fun to add a couple more speeches and dances and little show things. Maybe also a game? You could put cards at the table for people to write you advice for example For alcohol, can you do wine bottles on the table, or only service to tables? Can you do coolers?
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I hope they will but I don't know. It's in MA on June 12. The rules are really strict right now. The vendor said they will have waitors and waitresses serving the alcohol to each table. I think I'll have to come up with some games or activities that will get people moving around despite masks.
Jamie, I’m so sorry- I’ve been there last summer. We had guests could leave video messages for us and we loved watching them. We added a toast, and a few significant dances. Ended up being some of my favorite moments! You will be surprised as I was that guests still mingle, enjoy watching the first dance, and love watching you cut the cake. We did take photos and guests removed their mask briefly and put them back on afterwards, so by our pictures looked totally normal. Let us know if you have any questions and we’re here ❤️
Is your venue not following the state guidelines? Baker announced a few weeks ago that beginning on March 22nd, we will enter phase 4, which permits up to 100 guests indoors/150 outdoors for weddings. The tables still should be 6 feet apart, and 6 to a table is suggested, but if it’s the same family or household, I don’t see why you couldn’t seat more together. I also hate the idea of masks at my wedding. Dance floors will also be allowed at that time. My fiancé and I will be getting covid tested a few days prior due to the requirement for our honeymoon destination, and I do not intend to wear a mask that day. I will pay the $500 fine if need be.
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I would totally pay the fine to not wear a mask. Is it worth having a videoographer and photographer for the whole reception if everyone will be in masks? I wonder how you were able to invite 103. Mine says strictly 100. I hope some restrictions get lifted by then 😓. This really sucks. we are date twins that's cool! Thanks for your information.
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Hi Kayla thank you so much for your comment. What did you do about reception photography if everyone is in a mask did they remove them for every photo? What about videoographer did you do that? What other activities or food stations did you have at your wedding I'd you don't mind me asking? Anything you learned that you would advise another bride to do or not do?
My wedding is the same date as yours- it hasn’t happened yet Our venue rental includes the entire property and our wedding takes place both outdoors and indoors. Outdoor weddings can have up to 150 guests, so I can relocate the cocktail hour inside if needed. I also don’t expect all 103 to attend, as we have 11 international guests and several out of state. We are having passed hors d’oeuvres during cocktail hour and a cheese display. The dinner is plated. We do have a photographer and videographer. Masks are supposed to be worn whenever not eating or drinking, but at a wedding when are you not doing either? lol. Over the past year, we’ve seen most of the people attending our wedding and many of them are not living in fear over the virus. Everyone will be fine with removing their masks for pictures and as I said earlier, the groom and I will not be masked the entire day and neither will our parents or bridal party during the ceremony. For the amount of money we’re paying, I really can’t see the venue manager running up to people and telling them to put their mask back on, especially where most of our wedding takes place outdoors.
Omg your last part of this comment is probably my biggest fear. I'm from the MA CT area and our wedding is in CT. I personally DO NOT want to have to wear a mask at all the entire day. I really don't. I'm paying a lot of money for my hair and makeup that I can't imagine covering it up. I know this might sound selfish and I feel guilty sometimes, but if people have a problem with it, they can social distance from me or leave. Our venue has already stated that all guests have to wear the masks when not seated or eating/drinking and I just get so anxious that during the reception, they will tell me to put a mask on. I don't want to say it would ruin my night, but I'm trying to prepare myself to how I will react and not freak out.
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I’m not too worried about it. I’d tell them to fine me.
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Totally agree with this! Fellow MA bride here and I am the week before on June 6th. My venue is holding 100 people and dance floors! A lot can change especially with the vaccine roll out. I cannot lie I do not plan on wearing my mask either and most of my family is fully vaccinated already. I don't see the venue workers being too strict especially with the amount of money people are paying. If my guests would like to wear masks, I will tell my videographer to limit them as much as I can in the wedding video! So glad we can have our big days!
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Hi Jamie! I don’t mind at all - anything to help a fellow covid bride! A big help for us was moving ceremony and reception outdoors (which regulations at the time were masks optional outdoors). Here are pics to give you an idea of what it looked like (see below). Our guests were comfortable removing them for formal pictures (not that we asked them too, just their personal choice). Our videographer did setup the camera station for guests to come up and leave a video message and actually no one kept the mask on during their message (not mandated by us again just their personal preference). The camera station was socially distanced and required no touching on the device. We did a cookie table (individually wrapped) so guests could grab a bag of cookies throughout the evening and take some home. We had our reception on the water, so many guests took photos of the scenery which was entertaining in itself. We had a fire pit with benches socially distanced which gave a few guests an option to sit there, yet close enough to hear music and be a part of the experience. We had bridesmaids and groomsmen be announced individually at the reception to avoid linking arms. We also sat families by household. I learned so many things, one of them being that guests really like the back to basics approach where the moments celebrating the couple are at the heart of the wedding. Truly. For us, the masks did not take away from our joy in the least. Hope this helps ❤️❤️❤️
So after discussing with the venue. They told me that they are not the mask police. They said what they are more afraid of is the board of health coming by which does happen and shutting the wedding down. When is your wedding?
I would recommend talking to your venues about it. After I did I felt a lot better. I still am worried people may not socialize and have as much fun. So I am trying to think of or come up with some games ideas or stations to set up to keep people up and moving and having fun.