Couple's Shower

Just call it an engagement party. Problem solved. Boom

I agree with Willow. You would need to call it an engagement party. If you call it a shower people are going to want to bring gifts. The other option is a stock the bar shower, if you drink.

The entire purpose of a shower is gifts. If you don't want gifts, then you should call it something else. People (at least in my circle) tend to bring a gift to an engagement party, but it's usually like...a bottle of wine for the couple to share later or something like that.

We did a couples shower! It was great. Basically a backyard BBQ so we made it very obvious that it was a casual event, but we did not call it an engagement party (we also didn’t discourage gifts but we live apart and would actaually appreciate some gifts 😅). We didn’t even do any traditional shower games or anything because it truly was just a get together.

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Woah I didn't know this was a thing, but now I want a shower! Haha!

The purpose of a shower is to “shower” the couple with gifts. If you do not want us to bring gifts, I would agree with PP and call it an engagement party. Many couples have stock the bar parties (where each guest/couple brings a bottle of liquor to stock your home bar) in lieu of showers these days. So if you wouldn’t mind receiving bottles of liquor, that could be a great option. Typically they aren’t wrapped or anything, so you wouldn’t need to open them in front of others. Another option would be an I Do BBQ, were you an FH simply host a casual backyard barbecue in celebration of your upcoming nuptials.

The purpose of a shower is to:

1. Shower the bride/couple with gifts.

2. Watch the bride/couple open said gifts.

Since you don't want either of those, just call it an engagement party and your problem is solved!

Yeah if I’m invited to a “shower” I’m bringing a gift. I think calling it an engagement party is a fine option.

Also just a point, it's considered rude to throw yourselves a gift giving event, like a shower. It's usually someone close to you that hosts and arranges it. Why not just have a party with the people closest to you, if you're not wanting gifts?

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This is exactly what I want to do! I just didn't know how common it was or if it would be odd ? I appreciate your comment