Couples' shower

Hmmmmmm... when people ask for where they are registered, inform them about what they want then. IIRC, it is rude to tell people where they are registered (or in this case what they want) in the invite since it comes off as begging so have them come to you and have it be by word of mouth.

I dont think it's that weird to not want a registry. I would just leave it off. If anyone asks, just say there is no registry. Just bring yourself.

I would put a small note that’s included in the envelope with the invitation.


“In lieu of gifts, please write down your favorite family recipe, favorite drink, favorite Bible verse, restaurant, meal for the bride and groom.”
Then I would include a blank card with a prompt and lines. The guests can fill it out on their own time and when they arrive at the shower they can put it in a pretty box. You can then organize the cards and present them to the couple later. If a guest forgets to write down something you can have a few extra cards at the shower so they can write it there. I’m sure some people will bring gifts anyway.

Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Totally second this!

Rename it because a shower is for physical gifts. Not cash, recipes, etc. if the couple doesn’t register, they are setting themselves up to receive physical gifts they do want and cannot return. Because a number of families/friends groups do not give cash and other funds.


Everyone can use upgrades of items and they have their eye on something at a local store that they want that they would never spend their own money on. Those things are what go on registries. For example: fancy coffeemaker or margarita blender if they entertain frequently. A fireproof safe for documents. The sky is the limit for options as long as they are mindful of a variety of budgets from $1 utensils to $1000+ electronics or furniture.