Couples shower- gifts or cash?

Asking for donations/cash is generally an etiquette faux pas. I never knew this before joining a wedding website, but apparently the point of a shower is to "shower" the bride (or groom, in your case) with gifts.

I personally don't like registries, I always found them weird, but being solicited for donations would put a REAL bad taste in my mouth. If you weren't registered, I'd probably bring wine or a gift card or bake a cake.

Throwing a shower for yourself is also an etiquette faux pas. Since it is a gift giving event someone should offer to host one for you otherwise you don't have one. It is seen as gift-grabby to host it yourself. If someone throws one for you, they can include your website/registry info on the invitation. If you have a small registry or no registry your guests know that cash is a good gift.

A shower is an event to "shower" the bride/groom with gifts, not cash or funds to contribute to the wedding. So if you have a shower, I'd have a physical gift registry.

Please don't throw yourself a shower and ask for donations for your wedding. If you don't want physical gifts, don't have a shower. If there is anything you'd like, make a small registry. If not, just dont' register and people will give you cash/checks for the wedding.

I went to a couples shower that was hosted by the bride’s maternal grandparents and the gifts were gift cards. The bride was super happy since she’s not much of a cook (neither is the groom) and they got gifted lots of restaurant gift cards.