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Lauren, on July 4, 2019 at 9:02 PM Posted in Married Life 0 11
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I’m recently engaged and my FH and I have been discussing pre-marriage counseling. I’m wondering what others have done? Was it worth it? Do you recommend it?

Also, we still have a year and a half before we get married so when should we start counseling?

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  • Futuremrs
    Devoted July 2019
    Futuremrs ·
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    I'd suggest the counseling. It's the kind of thing that can't hurt, but really can help. My wedding is in 15 days and there are suddenly things coming up today between me and my fh that I thought we'd cleared up, but apparently did not. Counseling would have addressed them before now in a more focused discussion. We'll be fine. I was just surprised.
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  • Diana
    VIP December 2019
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    We did pre-marriage counseling mainly because we both have been married before and we both came out of a marriage that the opposite spouse didn’t want to talk about the normal relationship issues. With us it has set the beginning foundation to our upcoming marriage.
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  • Christine
    Dedicated April 2020
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    Were going to do premarital couseling because I feel like it would benefit us !
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  • Kat_
    Super October 2019
    Kat_ ·
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    We did pre-marital too and it was worth it. Some of it was really tough (bringing up family things) but it was 100% worth it. I feel like I can get to a deeper state of empathy with my FW faster when issues arise now. And she does the same with me. It covers a lot of ground and was extremely worth the time and money. I would do it now so you can leverage the techniques throughout the planning process for practice. Plus, once it’s out of the way you can focus on the stuff that’s more fun!
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  • Nikita
    VIP April 2019
    Nikita ·
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    We did not do pre-marital counseling; however, I do suggest it for anyone who is making the transition into 'life partner.' Most everyone I know who went through pre-marital counseling has found it super beneficial. There's a lot of feeling each other's communication style out and the day to day little things that matter (making each other feel appreciated and unappreciated).
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  • Kayla
    September 2020
    Kayla ·
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    My wife and I did. It was very beneficial! It helped us tremendously. I surely recommend it.
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  • Kiley
    Expert November 2019
    Kiley ·
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    We are doing pre-martial counseling. Our officiant requests we do 6 weeks with him prior to the ceremony. I think it's one of those things where you can really work out any last minute thoughts/concerns and start the marriage off on a healthy foot.

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  • Brianna N
    Super October 2019
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    We are doing it, and have been for about a year! We love it. I think it has really helped us learn how to best communicate with each other, which is super important. I would definitely recommend it!

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  • Mary
    Devoted November 2019
    Mary ·
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    It’s required in my church to get pre-martial counseling before getting married. My FH are about to do our first session next week so I’ll tell you how it goes! I am actually super excited because both him and I go to our own therapists so it’ll be interesting to have a combined session!
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  • Mrs. Juliana
    Dedicated August 2019
    Mrs. Juliana ·
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    Our pastor requires it to perform the ceremony. I would highly suggest it to couples who are engaged. It really helps with effective communication. I would adjust my budget to
    include premarital counseling and to cut something else. Weddings are cool and all but at the end of the day it’s really about a successful marriage. Life after the reception. It’s worth the investment.
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  • Mson
    Savvy February 2020
    Mson ·
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    Best thing ever. We started shortly after we got engaged. I don’t think it’s ever too early! It taught us so much about biblical perspectives, one another, communication, and more. I really looked forward to our homework assignments and you’ll find yourself referring back to what you learned even after you’re done with counseling.
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