Combined Bachelor/lette Parties?

I don't have any specific experience, but it seems like some big factors will be how early people will be coming in to town, if they want to spend time together as a group, and, if are you planning on having a rehearsal/dinner they'll already be attending? Daughter had a separate shower and a low-key bachelorette with a bunch of girlfriends in the months before the wedding. However, since four of her five BMs were flying in from all over the country (pre-Covid) and planned to be in town for 3-7 days before the wedding in order to visit their local family or sightsee, daughter invited them to a sleepover following the rehearsal/dinner (which was on Thursday for the Saturday wedding). Three of the five took her up on the offer and they had a blast (the other two had young kids and it was too much of a hassle for them to be away overnight). I think SIL went out with his guys for a while that night too. Neither of them wanted to be out and/or drinking the night before the wedding, so they were just home together on Friday night.

I think your plan might work, but a lot will depend on how long people will be in town, what commitments they have for the wedding already, and how comfortable they are spending a lot of time together given the pandemic. I'd probably start by having individual conversations with each person to get an idea of their specific plans/concerns -- then you'll know if your combined Bachelor/Bachelorette is even a possibility. Good luck! (If people can't make the extra party work, don't take it personally -- it just might be too much all at one time.)

I was MOH at my friends wedding years ago and we did just that the night before the wedding. We went bar hopping all over the island we lived on. It was a blast. She was kinda in the same boat as you and I was flying in for the event.

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Thank you for your response!! I will take this into consideration for sure!

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Thats fun! My bridesmaids and I aren't 21 yet plus COVID rules so bar hopping wouldn't work for us but we are thinking of renting out the local roller skating rink then later going back to our apartment and playing some games and eating food and treats, just super chill and laid back is our style.

View Quoted Comment We went and shot pool, played darts, I think there was even a strip club and dinner. You don’t have to “drink”

FH and I did ours together and it was a lot of fun. We have a very small bridal party because it's just my sister as MOH and his brother as best man so we decided to do a game night with us and my sister's husband. We ordered cups on amazon that said "bach and boozy" and played games, had drinks, watched movies. It was super low key but it worked for us, especially in the middle of a pandemic

View Quoted Comment That sounds perfect! I think itll be so much fun and a good relaxing night before the busy and stressful wedding!

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Exactly! We didn't want a big production, I've already stressed enough as is through this process!

View Quoted Comment FOR.REAL. Thank god I only have 113 days left!!

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Congrats! It'll go so fast! I feel like we just hit the 6 month mark and now we're only 44 days out!

View Quoted Comment Ahhh so exciting!! Congratulations!