Cold feet!

I think it's pretty normal to have some greater anxiety during this time, with a pandemic and wedding planning. I think questioning your relationship is more anxiety unless there is a reason to reconsider your FH besides the divorce of your parents. I would definitely not let your anxiety get the best of you and realize that your parents relationship will be different than yours with your FH.

I think it sounds normal to be nervous. However I would want to delve whether or not it’s your own nerves and over thinking or something actually in your relationship you’re doubting

There's a lot of reason to be anxious and question things right now, but I would urge you to reach out to your therapist, or to find one.

Things are really tough for everyone right now, but particularly for those going through other changes on top of everything else. A lot of states have set up mental health services to help their citizens, given the current situation, and you can find a lot of help from there.

I think most people have hesitations/slight panic when making any sort of huge, life-altering decision. It doesn't mean you love him any less--it just means that your brain is grasping how big of a decision it is to get married, and it is just trying to make sure you are making the right one!

Why did you decide to date him? Like, what attracted you to him in the first place? What made you realize you were in love with him? What made you realize you wanted to marry him? Things like this--drawing yourself back to the positives in your relationship and reminding yourself why you made this decision to get engaged and to ultimately get married--will help you remember that you made this choice for a reason!

View Quoted Comment To be honest, if you are thinking this now, there is a reason.


Yes, jitters are normal, but so is "spider sense"
If you will be together the rest of your life, it can wait. There shouldn't be a rush to go down the aisle.
Stop, wait, think.
If he is the one, he will understand and stick around.

I suffer from severe anxiety, and wedding planning definitely can enhance it, but I’ve never had a single doubt or second thought about marrying my FH. increased anxiety is normal, but I would take some time to evaluate what you’re anxious about. It’s right to explore those fears, sometimes your gut is right.

This is very normal for myself and it's just a process of newly weds ... i was anxious if he really was the one for me and marrying him as quick as I did

Feeling anxious I believe is totally normal. I wouldn't think that considering if he is the right one at this point is a little more than normal anxiety. Maybe something triggered your subconscious mind challenging one of your egos. Which is totally normal as you mentioned your parents not so positive relationship and that can definitely lead to those fighting thoughts. I would dive deeper into it with some therapy just to seek it out. Also if you can, as I don't know the relationship with your parents, maybe have a conversation with them to see what that moment was for them. Just know that your relationship is not your parents and is capable of being a healthy and normal (whatever that means) marriage. Good luck to you!

Yes, normal! I had known my husband for 16 years and still ended up having some anxiety the last month before our wedding. But, in my heart, I knew he was the one for me. ❤️ I believe you will come to a perfect decision for the two of you!