Christmas Gifts

Do you think it would be an issue because your step-sister is in the pictures? Or do you think your step-sister will want a book too? I think that it would be really nice to get your parents a book of the wedding too. If your in-laws get one and they don't, that might spark some tension. I also think that if your mom didn't want to see pictures of your step-sister in the wedding book you don't have to include those in the book.

Whether they’re getting along at the moment or not, your step sister is still family and she was still part of your wedding. Even if this drama doesn’t resolve, your mom is going to have to deal with your step sister in other aspects of her life. Give them the photo album.

View Quoted Comment I think it would be an issue that my step-sister is in the photos. Ever since she started talking to her biological mother she has wanted nothing to do with my step-dad, my mom, my brother or I. We have tried reaching out to her, but she ignores us or snaps at us. She has been being really weird about everything lately. I think it would cause some tension between families if I got my in-laws a photo album, but not my family which is why I was trying to think of something else to get my family.

Do you have pictures of you or you and Your husband with your parents? You could get a nice frame and give them a picture like that. Or one of you and your husband together or a collage of a few.

View Quoted Comment I haven't actually made an album yet which is why I was looking for other possible ideas.

View Quoted Comment

Could you do a wedding photo book for your family with just wedding pics of you and your hubby? I know my parents wouldn't want a lot of pics with the bridal party and would much rather have a book of just us. That's an option. Also, maybe doing a book of your engagement session would be good. That way they still get pics of you. Shutterfly has a bunch of amazing options! Maybe an ornament with a wedding pic of just the two of you or something like that?

Just make the photo book and leave out photos with your sister in them. I also got married in October and we made my parents and my in-laws a photo book for Christmas and tailored them to each family. You could put all of the photos in the one to your in-laws, but maybe leave out the ones with you sister in them in the book you give your mom and dad. Or, only put 1 or 2 photos containing your sister. They will really love the photo book, and I don't think your sisters poor attitude should ruin your parents gift.

I would still do a photo book. I know it's hurtful now, but she was still a part of your wedding and your life and that won't change. I would consider also getting a nice printed photo your you, H, and your parents, or just you and your H for your parents to display that doesn't include your sister.

My SIL is one of those types who can only have 1 mom in her life at a time...so sometimes she isnt on speaking terms with her bio mom and is friendly with her adopted mom....and vice versa. Whatever suits her best atm.
I would maybe include one or two photos (like if it's your whole wedding party) but not huge or enough that have a huge emphasis on them. If that makes sense? I had a falling out with my MOH after the wedding and she only appears in 2 photos of our book!

But other gift ideas, you could make a wall calendar with your favorite wedding photos, get a big canvas print of you guys or a special photo of you with your parents

View Quoted Comment To make matters worse my step-sister just messaged my step-dad asking for money for her wedding. Even though she told my parents she hates us and doesn't want us in her life she now wants money for her wedding. My mom is so upset because she doesn't understand how my step-sister can treat us this way then turn around and expect them to pay for her wedding.

View Quoted Comment Oh my gosh! That's a gutsy and stupid move on her part. I'm sorry she's putting your family through this 😪

View Quoted Comment

I agree with this. Could get a nice large collage wall frame and do pictures of your parents and you, one of you and your husband, and all 4 of you together, maybe some grandparents in there if that's something they'd love!

View Quoted Comment She apparently doesn't want money for a wedding. She just feels because my parents bought my wedding dress that she is entitled to the money equivalent to what my parents paid for my dress. My parents also kind of paid for my brother's wedding, but not really. They own a business which my brother works for so all of his pay went into a bank account that my parents set up and then all wedding expenses were paid from that account. So she also wants the same amount of money they put into the account. None of this money will be spent on a wedding for my sister because she is apparently not having a wedding. They want to just go to the court house or something like that. So she just wants all of this money in cash to do with whatever she wants.