Cash funds

Cash funds are definitely rude.

Having a very small registry or no registry at all definitely suffices in this area. Most adults understand that giving cash is a good idea anyway, but especially so if there's a small/zero registry.

I had a honeymoon fund and I feel like people were more inclined to buy me the activities I itemized out of it rather than donating to the general honeymoon cash fund. I also feel like compared to the people who ended up giving me checks and cash, not as many people used the honeymoon fund. They all have some small fee attached to it once you make the transfer to your account. I did have a separate registry for items but I mostly received cash gifts.

FYI, people here don’t like cash funds. Just don’t put the cash fund info on invites, let guests ask where you’re registered then you can say Zola, Honeyfund, whatever.


We used Honeyfund and 2 small retail registries because we heard some guests want to give you only a physical item. About 1/2 of guests gave us cash or Honeyfund, about 1/2 gave us gifts off the registry or other gifts.

My registry is all cash funds. But broken down into activities like $50 for a dinner on our honeymoon etc. I don’t find it rude at all. The last 4 weddings I attended asked for cash gifts. No problem. I gave a mix of cash and online payments.

My fiance and I registered at Bed Bath and Beyond and Amazon. We did this because there are things we need and would love to get from people. We didn't set up a cash fund for our honeymoon because sometimes there fees involved with that. What we did instead is, on our registry page on our wedding website, say that we have a honeymoon fund and it you would like to contribute please mail a check to the address below and make it payable to my fiance.

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Completely disagree with this! They are not rude at all. Some people don't feel comfortable just giving cash and enjoy being able to gift you an experience! I am all for them. Most of my friends have had them for their wedding. Times are a changing!

Cash funds are a know your crowd thing. Some people feel deceived by them because they aren’t actually gifting you an experience, rather just giving you money that a company takes a percentage of.

Absolutely a "know your crowd" issue. For daughter, this was a definite NO, as for our guests it would have been seen as extremely tacky. In addition, Honeyfunds ONLY benefit the honeyfund provider! They charge a percentage of the guests' gifts, and guests do not actually buy you any activities (so this is very misleading to uninformed guests and if they figure it out, they might find it very rude); and in most cases you don't get the money until after your wedding. Beyond that, some guests will find it very offensive to have any registry that asks for cash. If you want cash, just don't register! Most guests will likely gift you cash/checks, if they are so inclined. Those who want to buy a physical gift will do so, regardless of whether you have any kind of registry or not, so you're probably better off actually registering for some physical items you'd like to upgrade. Daughter's older, more "traditional" guests, gave them cash or checks ranging from a couple hundred to a thousand dollars as gifts, without her "asking/suggesting" anything! Those same guests are the type to be most likely offended by cash registries. Why would you want to potentially offend those more likely to give you larger financial gifts?

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100 % agree with Megan on this. They are rude. If you would rather have cash just don't register for gifts. 99% of guests give cash or checks anyway, lugging a gift to a wedding is a pain. Leave a card box on the table with your guest book. We didn't register and we only got two actual wrapped gifts. We got two gift card and the rest were cash and checks.

I'm not a fan of cash funds. They take a percentage of money from any guests that give through those platforms. To me, it's much better and honest to guests if you skip a cash registry and just have a very small registry!

View Quoted Comment But they aren’t actually gifting you an experience. That doesn’t bother me but it does bother some people.

I think they're tacky and rude. Everyone knows cash is a good gift - why would I pay extra to a service, just to give you cash? It makes no sense. If you don't want or need physical gifts, just don't register.

View Quoted Comment No I disagree completely...and generally most people would. I did a cash registry and everyone understood and donated it. They actually preferred it they knew our lifestyle they knew we have a lot of gadgets and furniture and they knew that we were customizing our own honeymoon no one thought that was rude at all

It seems like a lot of people don't like cash register use on here for whatever reason. But they can be great I guess you'd have to know your guests to know how they'd like to gift you for your special day. I stated in this thread that I did a cash registry as my husband and I wanted to road trip to Canada. We did calculations to see how much we would need and everything worked out. Everyone understood but that's partly because we're super low-key we've never done a housewarming and we don't do events where we ask for gives a lot so we when had the cash registry everyone was more than happy to donate and they did and we actually met our goal.

View Quoted Comment Its interesting to see what people think. I'd have expected more people used or liked them. I actually haven't been to a wedding since I was about 12 so I have no idea what weddings are like. I don't think we want to do any type of cash or honeymoon fund but I was really curious what other brides and grooms/wedding goers thought of them.
I like the idea of having some sort of box for cards as well as keeping our registry small, which probably would have happened anyways.
Me and my fiance aren't typically big on expecting gifts or money from people but we know this is part of a wedding. I think it could be fun to do a give back. Rather then gifts of any sort do a charity, drive or some kind of like recycling, planting something. There are pros and cons with that as well though.

We did a "cash fund" type thing on Zola. We registered for experiences for our honeymoon (sushi making class, couples massages, etc.), but the $$ all goes to the same place (our bank account) and we were able to use it on whatever we wanted.