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Just Said Yes December 2022

Cannot stop regretting my wedding and my vendors

Ruminatingbride, on April 25, 2023 at 4:20 PM Posted in Married Life 0 3

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This feels so stupid as I had a lovely wedding for the most part - it was the best day of my life! (Although there was some drama with some (now ex) friends which I put such a downer on how I look back on the wedding afterwards)

Anyway, the more I think about the wedding the more regrets I have and I cannot shake the feeling off at all. Obviously when I voice this to my husband he gets upset as to him it was the most perfect day despite the details!
For example, we had to change photographers last minute as our one who we met several times over the year planning ended up in hospital. So the new photographers took great photos but they just were not as creative or fun as I would like.
I’m my florist pinned the buttonholes on the groom and groomsmen for them….. and now when I look at photos I realise that the groom’s buttonhole was given to the groomsmen!! He has a significantly more detailed button hole compared to my groom and I can’t stop focusing on this!
My decorator keeps chatting on instagram about details that make the perfect day and makes her the perfect decorator… looking back at my photos I noticed that some of the basic things she mentioned (like steaming linen) was just not done.
Obviously in the high of the wedding I left them all good reviews.. but now the photos are out I really am noticing the things I am unhappy with and I just don’t know what to do. I want to forget all the small imperfect things and really focus on the good but I am struggling!

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Latest activity by Laura, on April 27, 2023 at 4:53 AM

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Kimberly · on April 26, 2023 at 9:48 AM
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I can assure you your guests did not notice things like steamed linens and which flowers the groom had as opposed to the groomsman. I’m sure it’s annoying to notice that stuff in pictures, but maybe try listing out some of the things that you see that you do like and reflect on comments from your husband/guests about what they enjoyed. If looking at the pictures has become a frustrating experience that makes you doubt the whole day, then put the pictures away for a while and just focus on your positive memories. As with all things, it is impossible for a wedding to go 100% perfect. You’re married to (presumably) the love of your life, and you successfully pulled off a wedding that you described as your best day. So enjoy that!
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JA · on April 26, 2023 at 1:00 PM
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Yeah, I feel you! I got married over a year ago and I still don't really love to think about all those kids of things. But at the end of the day you cant change it and it is time to move on. You can always edit your reviews on social sites if you feel the need.
But I learned to stop bringing those things up to my husband because it just made him sad that I didnt have the "perfect" wedding. I vented to my friends for a while and now the thoughts come and go pretty quickly and none of it matters
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April 2019
Laura · on April 27, 2023 at 4:53 AM
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I echo Kimberly + JA's comments. Enjoy married life! Its clear that both you and your husband had an amazing day and I'm sure it was so beautiful. Don't focus on the small things Congratulations again!
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