Can i have two bachelorette parties?

I don’t see a harm in having a bachelorette party away and then more of just a night out on the town locally to celebrate with people who weren’t able to come to the out of town party.

I don't see the harm in a second one

I had friends doing a second bachelorette that work just fine for them. I don’t see why not.
I had a destination bachelorette so it was short in friends. For my bridal shower we had a pajama party and all my girls attended and we even had a sleep over so that was a lovely extra night with the girls.

Nothing wrong with having two bachelorette parties. My husband had two bachelor parties, one a weekend trip to a beach house with his college friends and the other at steak restaurant with his brothers and post-college friends (I just had one bachelorette party lol).

Though I’m a little confused by what you’re concerned the bridesmaids planning the 1st party will be offended by - that you would want a 2nd party, that you would expect them to plan it, or that you would want to plan it yourself.

Also, I think it’s fine to invite a larger group of people to the 2nd party. For a causal “night out in the city” event, you don’t have to be so choosey with the guest list as you did for the more intimate weekend trip.

I went to New Orleans for my bachelorette but not everyone was able to make it. Two of my bridal party members (coursing) felt bad they couldn’t make it and took me out with the rest of the bridal party. I felt bad since the rest of my bridal party was coming to New Orleans but it was the only time we’d all be together, the 2 that couldn’t come to New Orleans treated me that day. Two of my friends who were invited also couldn’t make it but took me out to brunch to celebrate so in total I had 3 lol but they were all with different people and they planned it. I’m sure they’ll be happy to celebrate with you someway somehow!

View Quoted Comment My bridesmaids are putting so much work into it. I don't know. Maybe I'm just overthinking it. What if they think I'm not happy enough with theirs?

View Quoted Comment Thanks Lauren!

I believe I am going to have 2 bachelorette parties. 1 for me and my bridal party. We were planning on going to Clearwater and having a "traditional" Bachelorette Party. and the 2nd one will have my other friends along with My mother and the Groom's mother Possibly doing a spa day.

I'd make the second one a lot more casual. Like dinner then dancing but not even a bachelorette party.

Thanks all! I ended up just talking with my bridesmaids and we decided to plan something where more people can be included.

I have been struggling with a similar situation and this thread was really helpful for me in making my decision!

I am doing a destination bachelorette party with just my bridal party because space is limited where we are staying. I felt really bad about not including other friends I want to be involved though, so I wasn't sure what to do.

I've now decided to do a separate "girls night out" that is more local to where most of my friends are where we will go to a downtown and have some fun and then maybe end with a movie night. Something more low key than a traditional bachelorette party but still a fun way to celebrate all together in a way that's easier for others to attend.

This way I can have the experiences I want to have and include all who I'd want to participate in celebrating with me between the two events.