Brunch & Bubbly

Sorry, I think I'm confused. Are you planning this shower for someone else?

I'm asking because it's actually a faux pas to host your own bridal shower, because it's a gift giving event.

So, if it's for someone else, what are their interests and likes?

I agree with Jacks. If this is your own shower it would not be appropriate to host it yourself because that would be seen as self serving and gift grabby. Unfortunately, if no one offers, it doesn’t happen.

View Quoted Comment This is my second marriage I could care less about “faux pas” it’s for me!!! It’s MY DAY…I’m giving gifts to my bridal party not requesting a thing but thanks 🥴

View Quoted Comment Again, I am hosting it for MYSELF! I don’t need a gift from anyone nor do I want anything. It’s to create memories with my bridal party, mother and future mother in law. I’m giving gifts. I didn’t ask for you opinions on me hosting my own shower…it was in reference to my theme. 🤷🏽‍♀️

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If that’s the case, don’t call it a shower, make it a luncheon in honor of your bridal party and the mothers. It doesn't matter that you aren't "requesting" anything. As soon as you attach the word shower, guests are obliged to bring gifts. That’s the entire point, definition, and main theme of any shower.

Also, it's good to keep in mind that as soon as you invite or involve others the day stops being exclusively about you.

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Yes, having a shower literally means that gifts are requested.

If you don't want gifts, I would call it a bridal brunch and just host it without saying "shower".

It's not "YOUR DAY" when you involve other people in the events, because then you need to think about their needs and feelings.

View Quoted Comment Ok listen I’m not here for the shaming or whatever girl bye

View Quoted Comment Don’t come over here raining on my parade…negative baby goodness gracious it’s not that deep tf

View Quoted Comment I don’t think anyone was trying to shame you. They are just trying to prevent you from committing etiquette no-no’s and potentially coming across as rude or “gift grabby”. I think it’s lovely you want to have a fun experience celebrating with your family and friends. Since you are not requesting gifts, it is perfectly OK for you to host an event. However, it would not be called a “shower”, because a shower is strictly a gift-giving event. It literally means to “shower” the couple with gifts. So on your invitations you would simply list it as a pre-wedding celebration, luncheon, bbq… whatever event your hosting.

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I'm not shaming, just presenting reality!

I’m doing an afternoon tea. So it’s tea party themed, at lunch time with little finger sandwiches.

View Quoted Comment Sounds nice! I hope you all have a great time!

Sounds fun! Like Sasha, my shower was tea party themed. What games are you playing? My favorite was one my mom and sister made up where each person had to draw an animal from a hat then make it in play doh. People had to guess what each animal was and the person with the most correct guesses won.

We are doing pink themed with a pink dress code and me and my fiancé wearing all white it’s outside were having pasta spaghetti &alfredo (both sauces are pink)and breadsticks with champagne&wine& sparkling juice for the kids we are also having lots of outside games and a photo wall our wedding is rusty shades of pink with rustic orange and hints of gold