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Dedicated November 2019

Bro bath/groom shower

Caitlyn, on September 21, 2019 at 12:16 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 7

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Has anyone ever set this up or heard of it? As the Bride I dont think it would be appropriate for me to host it, but is it wrong for me to mention it to his guys? It's his wedding too and I want him to have something. I'm not even sure if he's having a bachelor's party, 3 out of his 3 guys live an hour, 4 hours, and a few states away. Would tell them I'd cover the cost of the groceries (grilling burgers, hot dogs, ya know, guy stuff). Our wedding is Sunday. I'm having a spa day with my girls/ family Saturday. I was thinking they could be the same day, so all of the GM could be there, plus his out of town family. The gifts typically given are tools and hardware things. Share your thoughts!

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Latest activity by Julie, on September 21, 2019 at 6:03 PM

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Caytlyn · on September 21, 2019 at 12:19 PM
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I don't think it's ever appropriate to ask someone to throw a party where people are expected to give you gifts. Sure, it's for your FH, but the gifts are for both of you. If you want him to be included, ask the host of your bridal shower if they'd be comfortable hosting a couples shower so your FH and the guys can be included.
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Dedicated November 2019
Caitlyn · on September 21, 2019 at 12:20 PM
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A couple from our church is hosting a wedding shower for us.
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Caytlyn · on September 21, 2019 at 12:21 PM
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So you're already having a shower and want to ask someone to throw you another one? I would find that extremely rude.
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Keri · on September 21, 2019 at 12:22 PM
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I have never heard of this. I don't think it's polite to ask them to throw a party (even if you are helping them pay for it) and bring your FH gifts.

If your FH wants to spend time with his buddies he can invite them over though and grill and essentially do the same thing, just not calling it a groom shower or expecting them to bring gifts.
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Jeanie · on September 21, 2019 at 12:34 PM
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I’ve never heard of this. If you wanted the men invited, it should have been a coed bridal shower. It would be in poor taste to ask his friends to have a shower for him, and downright insulting to say you’ll provide the food for it. If you’re worried about him spending time with his friends before the wedding, why don’t you ask if they have plans. While you can’t tell them what to plan, and you can’t ask them to throw a party, you can tell them that all the girls will be at the spa so it would be the perfect time to get your fiancé out of the house if they so choose.
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Watts · on September 21, 2019 at 5:48 PM
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So, to me, it seems that you are just trying to make sure he feels special and are concerned that his guys might not be planning anything for him. I get that. Showers definitely revolve around gifts, so if you are having one already i wouldn't request another. Have you asked his groomsmen if they are planning a bachelor party? You can phrase it like "oh, hey, are you guys planning a bachelor party? I want to make sure I don't double book anything for him and I on your day". If they say they can't due to funds then you can offer to pay for the grilling and stuff.
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