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Bridesmaid inviting teenage kids to bachelorette… Wwyd?

Chloe, on February 21, 2022 at 3:26 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 6

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I just got done talking to one of my bridesmaids (my cousin) and we were talking about how I was thinking of going to universal/Harry Potter world for my bachelorette. During the conversation she mentioned in passing that she’s currently looking for hotel rooms and is booking for 3 people: herself and her two teenage boys. And she also said they’d be so mad if she went without them. I was in shock cuz I didn’t know how to respond to her. AITA for thinking this is completely absurd that she would even think it’s okay to be bringing them with her for a Bachelorette party? My other bridesmaids I’ve talked to have already planned to leave their kids at home and I thought this would just be a no brainer that of course no kids, let alone teenage boys, would be invited….
What would you guys do in my situation? I’d like to add that I’m not a very confrontational person and she is 100% assertive. Help? 😬

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Latest activity by April, on February 21, 2022 at 7:44 PM

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Pirate & 60s Bride · on February 21, 2022 at 7:24 AM
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Hmmm…perhaps, “Oh, will someone be with them the time you’re with us? The bachelorette is an adults-only event.”

Perhaps she’ll stay an extra day or so to play with them too.
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Samantha · on February 21, 2022 at 7:59 AM
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Yeah its pretty absurd. Teenagers (depending on age) can generally be alone for a while, so she might not necessarily be bringing them to your event. Maybe just say, "oh hopefully they have fun while you are out with us!" or whatever to give her the hint.
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Hanna · on February 21, 2022 at 8:14 AM
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Maybe she's planning to stay longer after your bachelorette ends to take her sons to the parks? I'd just ask her to clarify. The teens obviously shouldn't be at your bachelorette itself--that's a no brainer.
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Becky · on February 21, 2022 at 9:59 AM
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Maybe she's thinking she'll get them theme park tickets and let them go and do on their own?
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Chloe · on February 21, 2022 at 3:27 PM
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Her teenagers are pretty dependent and knowing them, since they’re my second cousins after all, they would definitely be hanging out with us the entire time. 😬 I’ve already mentioned passively they they can’t get mad at her if they don’t come cuz it is for my bachelorette..
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April · on February 21, 2022 at 7:44 PM
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NTA.....politely tell her there won't be any other kids and they are not invited to hang out with your party. I know if will seem harsh, but this is for you! Not her kids. If she can't leave them she should not come. Be kind but firm. You have to set your boundaries or it will ruin your party.
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