Bridesmaid Drama

It is what it is, if she can’t make it to the shower I wouldn’t rearrange the schedule just for her, ya know?

Not all of my bridesmaids could make it to my shower or bachelorette. I would pick a date that works best for the majority and whoever can make it will!

Well we can't control what other people decide to do with their time and money. If she can't make it that's on her. You've done your best to be accommodating to everyone and that's all you can do. Don't stress over it.

For my original bachelorette party date (we postponed the wedding and the bachelorette party), not all of my bridesmaids could make it. I would say pick a date that works for most people, and party with whoever can make it at that time!

Hey let it go. She is not making it a priority but do not let that stress and bring you down. I know it sucks but like the pp said do not cater to her. Keep her in the loop and if she chooses not to come it is what it is.

I'd pick the date that works for the majority and let it go. Not all of my bridesmaids were able to make it to my shower and it was no big deal. This happens to plenty of people.

If that's that date that works for you, and she can't or won't come, I'd let it go and go have a great time with everyone else! I would definitely not make any additional effort to plan around her since it sounds like she'll give you a hard time no matter what and sounds unreliable anyway. That's the date, it's her decision to go or not go (she's not required to), and now you can move on to funner job of helping plan everything!

I agree with everyone else that this doesn't need to be drama or a problem. Pick a date and let everyone know. Make sure the costs are shared up front before anyone commits. Keep things reasonable. And then just let whomever wants to come, come, and enjoy your party.

I'd just let it go. Yes it can be frustrating but you aren't going to be able to please everyone. I'd just pick a date that's good with the majority and whoever can make great if not oh well. Theres really not much you can do and you shouldn't cater to one person either.

Thanks everyone! kinda helped ease my mind. Everytime my matron of honor talks about anything about my wedding of dates and/or ideas my cousin just comes running to me and acts like she wants to drop out!

Like nothing is set in stone!