Bridal Shower/rehearsal Dinner Question

A bridal shower and rehearsal dinner are usually two separate events, with two different groups of people invited. Generally, the rehearsal dinner is for your immediately family, and those in your wedding party. If you’re getting married Monday, then honestly asking for gifts for your bridal shower the same weekend is a bit much. Your bridal shower should be a few months beforehand. If everyone is out of town, then maybe forgo the shower. I definitely would not throw a gift giving party the same weekend.

I have been to a bridal shower and bachelorette on the same day! It was very nice and I believe it’s doable! The bridal shower was very low key and bachelorette was the same! It was a very good time!!!

I wouldn’t do a shower on wedding weekend especially if everyone is traveling. Most people aren’t going to want to travel with a physical gift and that’s what showers are for. Everyone traveled for our wedding as well and we had a shower in my husbands hometown and one in mine. But I think having a bachelorette party that weekend is fine.

You may can combine a bridal shower and bachaloreete party i def can def that happening as a 2 and 1. The resharsal dinner the night or day before will be very expected and reasonable for you....

Could you forego the gifts part of a shower and do a bridal luncheon before the bachelorette? I agree with the pp that doing on the same day as the rehearsal might be a bit much. I think it would be hectic having all those parties in one weekend.

I think it’s fine but it sounds like a lot of stuff going on

I'd skip the shower. You're basically asking your guests to travel with 2 gifts, arrive by Saturday morning (which is tough if they work Sunday), focus much of their attention on you during a long weekend, take Monday off if it's not a holiday, then be back to work by Tuesday. Unless I were needed for the rehearsal, or you lived in a touristy area, I'd arrive Sunday evening.

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I agree with all of this. I also don't think having many guests traveling in for the wedding is an usual situation (between genuine destination weddings and the fact that many people don't live near their families any more). This is too many events in too short a time, which places a huge burden on guests, especially in regards to gift giving.

Thank you all so very much! I'm mother of the groom. We weren't thinking the gift perspective at all and your thoughts really helped!!!! I think we're just going to do a lunch (or brunch) instead, if anything. I was worried about people being bored while here, it was so helpful to hear different sides. Thank you so much!!!