Bridal Shower/bachelorette Post Elopement

I've seen many scenarios where the couple got married on their original date, and postponed the larger reception/bridal shower/bachelorette party until later! I don't see anything wrong with it at all. I think in general, people are definitely understanding of having to delay these events due to COVID. I don't think anyone would be upset over the events being done out of the typical order - most (if not all) people should be receptive to this.

I think as long as everyone knows they eloped, celebrating is fine. Even pre-covid I think the only thing that made this tricky was that couples would elope and not tell anyone so that they could still have all these big events.

She deserves the entire bridal experience! I say plan the bachelorette party. Regardless of if she is legally married, have a bach party before her big ceremony will be fun and exciting for her. As far as a shower, I feel the same way. As long as people know they are already legally married, I see no issue in having either.

First of all, you are such a sweet MOH to want to make sure your friend has the entire bridal experience! And I don’t see anything wrong with planning these events, especially in light of the Covid postponement.

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I think it's more than okay to have these celebrations! Like Sarah mentioned, just make sure guests are aware that they've already eloped. Guests may not be happy if they're invited to these events without the knowledge that the couple has already eloped.

I love that you are fighting for her to have the full bridal experience! I'm sure she is extremely thankful for the kind of MOH and friend you are!

I agree with others that the events are totally fine to plan, assuming the guests know they are legally married. The bachelorette party doesn't always mean the bride's "last single outing", it could also simply be a celebration with the bride's gals in honor of a huge life event! I'm sure she would love it!

You could, also, throw a shower that kind of doubles as a wedding and house warming! Just a thought! SO sweet of you to want to do this for her!

We eloped last year and are having our big wedding in May. My MOH still threw me a bachelorette and I'm having a shower this weekend. She just kind of re-branded a little bit to call the bachelorette "First Fling After the Ring" and the shower "Showering the New Mrs". There's nothing wrong with still having the full experience even if it's a little out of order!

My husband and I got married and had to push our big wedding back as well. We still plan on doing a couples shower. Definitely plan something for her, I don't think people will have a problem with it especially since it was due to COVID.

I’m in the same boat. I eloped in July 2021 and pushing the big celebrations till 2022 maybe even 2023 pending how things go. You are an amazing MOH and she is blessed to have you!

View Quoted Comment Was everyone very understanding of this? I’ve gotten some comments from family members ( older ) that think it’s just odd. But I don’t feel like a child custody case or COVID should keep anyone from having the full experience.