Shelby
Beginner May 2022

Bridal shower 🤍

Shelby, on June 4, 2021 at 2:20 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 19
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Hey, ladies! So I’m struggling to figure out when I should do a bridal shower. I would assume it would be before the bachelorette weekend, but don’t know how far out to do it or who to invite- any advice? ☺️

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Latest activity by Nadia, on June 26, 2021 at 4:30 AM
  • SHY
    Master January 2022
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    You can honestly do it whenever works best for you! Our wedding is next January, my bachelorette trip is this September, couple shower is in October, and my MOH is thinking of doing my bridal shower sometime in November! Personally I don't think you need to follow any sort of rules as far as pre-wedding events go. If you want to celebrate it at a certain time, then do so!

    I think that whoever is invited to the shower and any pre-wedding events, needs to also have an invite to the wedding. For a bridal shower, I'd invite close friends, bridal party members, and women in both families.

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  • AJ
    Rockstar October 2022
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    I'm having mine like two months before my wedding - so maybe 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Some people do couples showers but I've only been to showers where its all women (family, yours and his, bridal party members, your close friends) Women who are invited to the shower must be invited to the wedding

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  • Izzykern
    Super April 2021
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    My bridal shower was after my bachelorette and pretty close to the wedding day, about 30 days out! We invited all the my BM, aunts, family friends, and moms (from both mine and his side) — but my MIL threw me a separate bridal shower also, since my husbands family is so big!
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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated November 2021
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    Well I’m getting married in November 2021 so I’m hearing my MOH and Bridesmaids are doing me a Bridal shower in September and they’re doing my Bachelorette Party in October. I don’t know what they’re planning but I’m all for it. Since I don’t have to plan neither lol
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  • M
    Super June 2021
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    Completely up to what dates work for you and the people you want there! My wedding is next weekend and my bachelorette was in mid-April and my bridal shower was in mid-May
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    It's really up to what date works for everyone involved with planning and the bride! Most of the showers I've been to are typically 1-2 months before. My shower was 2 months to the day before my wedding. I'm about to host a shower a 4 weeks before the bride's wedding. There really is no rule! My bachelorette was the weekend before my wedding.
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  • Judith
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    Most important to remember: the bride does not give the shower, or make major decisions about it. Your bridesmaids or close friends or family who are not bridesmaids, or lan individual who volunteers, give the shower. The first thing the usually small group of hostesses do is set a budget. If everyone can afford $40 and there are 3 hostesses, then $120 is the budget. If they can afford $400, that is it. The hostesses decide the venue and refreshments. If near you the cheapest lunch, or dessert and coffee, plus tax and tip, is $25 then people with $120 either decide to have 4 people including themselves, or do it where they can do it free ( venue) and cook or buy groceries. So maybe ?20 for $120, and you serve brownies and ice cream ( whatever) and coffee. ... As bride, you cannot be the one to decide the number, the location, or the budget. The volunteer s who will hostess figure out budget/ location, and the number. Then they ask the bride for a list of wedding guests, with her preferred 15-25 people, or $40, what the hostesses decide. ...In another section now there is a posting from a nap member of a bride who wants more than 70 people, and is fighting to have 50. A venue charging $20 plus 5 tax plus 5 tip is $30 , pretty cheap. But for that many, it is $2100 before any decorations, invitations. What group of 3-4 hostesses plans on $700, or $1000 each? This is why brides do not choose, how many. 2 small groups a distance apart, like bride's home friends and family, and school and work friends might choose 2 small showers, someone's home or yard, and give totally different numbers. And you really have to wait to hear what those volunteering to give the shower want and can afford in numbers, not try to plan the shower. And though you may decide to do it yourself , in fact it is consídered quite rude for a bride to throw a party to gather gifts for herself. Put the shower and bach in the last 4 Months for likely time to happen. And wait for volunteers to be hostesses. Financially, it often works best with 2 small showers, or with some or all not in the bridal party, sister's or aunts or other friends. That means those buying dresses and such are not doing both. And brides and bridesmaids are still friends after the wedding.
    So, wait. Sometimes the hardest part!
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  • Nadia
    Beginner June 2020
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    My bridal shower was 2 weeks i believe before we got married!
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  • Shelby
    Beginner May 2022
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    Thank you Nadia!! 🤍
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  • Shelby
    Beginner May 2022
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    This was awesome information, Judith!! Thank you so much!
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  • Shelby
    Beginner May 2022
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    Yes ma’am that’s what I’ve been told too! Thank you so much!
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  • Shelby
    Beginner May 2022
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    So exciting!! Thank you fro the info! Enjoy your big day! 🤍
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  • Shelby
    Beginner May 2022
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    I agree 100%! Thank you for your input! 🤍
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  • Shelby
    Beginner May 2022
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    I agree 100%! I’ll definitely invite those from the shower to the wedding! Thank you for commenting! 🤍
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  • Shelby
    Beginner May 2022
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    Oh wow!! That’s great!! I think a month out is a pretty good amount of time! Thank you for your input! 🤍
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  • Shelby
    Beginner May 2022
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    Oh great idea! I may do the same timeline!! Thank you for the comment! 🤍
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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
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    You're welcome!!

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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated November 2021
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    Your Welcome Wedding Twin
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  • Nadia
    Beginner June 2020
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    You're welcome!
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