Bridal Shower

It can be whomever.. bridal party.. relatives, etc. however it’s not usually the bride themselves that plans it

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! Do you recommend creating a text group?!

View Quoted Comment If you wanna introduce the other bridal party members to one another I think that would be nice

I’m a control freak too so I was the opposite way as you though... my mom asked if I wanted a bridal shower so I said “only if I can have absolutely nothing to do with planning it” because I didn’t need ANOTHER event to be stressed out planning. They ended up surprising me with one and it was just lovely, and totally relaxing because I didn’t have to worry about planning it.



The wedding is the time to plan everything to be perfect. For your shower, just trust your friends and family to throw you a great party!

Yep, that is something to put aside and let other people *do for you*. Absolutely introduce your BP to each other - you'll need to communicate with them about a load of other stuff, anyway - but don't worry about the shower.

Then you'll get a nice surprise!

Etiquette says neither family nor you can host it. Your non-related attendants would host the shower. It's also common and accepted for social groups such as coworkers, fellow church members, fellow members of a wine club or book club you belong to, etc to host showers, but they will decide that on their own.

I was delighted when my bridesmaids told me to relax. They asked me for the list and that was it. It didn't end up happening, but I trust these girls with my life so I knew it would have been perfect. Let go of this one task. You'll be glad for it when the day comes.

A bride trying to control a bridal shower is like a bridesmaid trying to plan the wedding. A party thrown in your honor is not for you to control. You go as a gracious guest. Your input may be asked, but aside from help with the guest list, you enjoy the efforts made on your behalf.

My mom and i are planning mine

I am also a control freak. I try to dictate my sister, who's the Maid of Honor, of exactly what I want. However, I am now 4 months away, and somewhat stressed out. After having a conversation with her, I told her she can just take care of it. In my opinion, bridal shower is more fun and should be a relaxing time for the bride. So it's probably better to let other people take care of it.

Look at the shower as a gift from your loved ones. You would never be controlling over a gift someone is getting for you. You have plenty of other things to control.

Typically you only have a bridal shower if someone offers to host it. From my experience it's usually the bride's mother or her mother in law, but I've also seen sisters or best friends or aunts host too.