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Super October 2020

Bridal Shower

Talia, on February 21, 2020 at 9:53 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 23
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My family was wondering if you invite the dads & brothers to the bridal shower. I'm the first one in the family to get married and they have no idea(neither do I haha). Is it just your discretion?

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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Personal decision but every bridal shower I have been to it has been women only.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Bridal showers are traditionally women only events. If you're having a wedding shower with mixed genders, you could invite your male family members.

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  • Jasmine
    Dedicated April 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    Umm unless you REALLY want them there. No because chances are even though they love you....they don’t want to be there lol
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Traditionally women but there’s people who have mixed gender showers like co Ed showers
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  • kymarmck
    Super March 2020
    kymarmck ·
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    I'm the first to get married in my family too so there's been A LOT of research going on hahaha.

    I would say it's up to you, but typically it's just he women!

    I know for my family, our venue has a bar that's separate from the party area so we've had it before where husbands will come and just sit in the bar and drink and watch TV while the wives attend the party Smiley smile

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  • Rachael
    Expert September 2020
    Rachael ·
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    Its usually just the women unless you do an I do BBQ type thing. Most men don't want to be there. Everyone I've been too, the man shows up at the beginning to say hello and then at the end to load the car

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  • M
    Savvy September 2020
    Mari ·
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    My best friend had her fiancé and her close male family members there but I chose not to have any at mine. Everyone is telling me “your fiancé has to come and bring you flowers”... I’m like no .. this is my event he doesn’t need to come at all and he doesn’t want to lol
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  • Samantha
    Dedicated April 2021
    Samantha ·
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    Just make sure that if you do invite the dads and brothers that you invite them all. My FH's brother and SIL had a baby shower and they invited both dads and only her brother, so my FH was left out. He's over it, but it didnt make it any less annoying

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  • Chantal
    Expert August 2020
    Chantal ·
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    Typically it's just women. I would encourage that, since every shower I've been to, the bride opened presents and recieved a lot of sexy-wear for her husband and that could get very awkward in front of your dad and brother. But if you don't think you run the risk of that based on your crowd, I would agree with the PPs and say it's up to you!

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    We had a couples shower so we could have men in attendance as well.
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  • Talia
    Super October 2020
    Talia ·
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    Thanks everyone. I know my fiance says he wants to be there with me.

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  • Pattie
    Expert June 2020
    Pattie ·
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    I agree with everyone on this one. Its a personal discretion thing, but typically it is women only. I will be having a ring game too where everyone gets a glitzy bling ring from party city and people can steal them from each other if they mention the wedding. haha I want it low key and a party!!!

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    Judith ·
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    A certain amount depends on who is hosting your shower. That volunteer may want all female. And they may want to pay for the minimum number of people, not shell out $30- $100 more because more of your family is coming. It is not a bride's decision to make. The hostess or hostesses decide on the nature of the party, and whom to invite.
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  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    Mine invited themselves but it was fun and I didn’t mind at all
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    Typically men are invited to couples showers, not bridal showers.

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  • Talia
    Super October 2020
    Talia ·
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    Only reason I asked is because they don't have wedding wire. My family is the one hosting. They don't know, that is simply why I asked. They're obviously inviting my FH. It wasn't my decision anyway besides my Fh saying he wants to be there with me.

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  • anna
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Bridal showers are typically just for women, but "couple's showers" are also a thing. our church threw us a couple's shower, it was basically a big cookout and we opened gifts. it all depends on what you want!

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  • Courtney
    Savvy August 2020
    Courtney ·
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    Women only is what I’m accustomed to, but you can personalize it however you prefer.
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  • J
    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    Then fine with the hosts, fine with you. Best of all worlds.
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  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    It's really up to you all. The venue for my shower had a separate room with a billiards tables and such, so my husband, his dad, and his grandpa all hung out over there and came over for food. My husband also did the shoe game with me and then opened presents with me.
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