Bridal shower

Nope, not at all. A bridal shower and bachelor/bachelorette parties are not necessary. You don't have to have either if you don't want it. Or you can do them together.

We are really trying to save money since I want us to plan everything and not have e his parents pay for anything at all.

If that's what you want...nothing wrong with it at all.

View Quoted Comment Usually the showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties are hosted by other people and not paid for by the couple. So if no one has volunteered to host it then it’s fine to not have one. Also even if you did have to pay for it it’s also ok not to have one haha. I have had people offer to throw me a shower but I just don’t want one so I’ve declined (my sister is still is going to do something I know it smh 🙄).

I dont want an bridal shower either.. I really just want to be with my Bridesmaids the night before my wedding have fun in our PJ's.

There’s nothing wrong with skipping a shower, but I’m not sure it’s super healthy for your fiancé to not want to spend one evening away from you to celebrate with his friends.

If that's what both you and FH want, then there's nothing wrong with that whatsoever!

No I think that's fine. I've friends who don't do that. At the end of the day those are just optional parties

No not at all, none of the pre-wedding parties are required.