So my mom and fmil were hosting a bridal shower for me in September. My recently postponed our wedding to next October but will still be legally getting married on our original date. I figured we would just cancel the shower entirely, especially because it’s not safe to have this year. They were very upset and said I still needed to have a shower and it didn’t matter because they were hosting I don’t have a say and to just do it. I think it’s kinda weird to have a bridal shower after already being married a year, but it’s kind of not because we are still having a big wedding next year. Any opinions?
I think as the guest of honor, you get to decide if and when you have a party. Yes, the hosts throw it, but at your convenience/consent.
Would it be better if you did a virtual or drive by party?
We also postponed our reception to 2021 and are still getting married this year. I didn't really care about having a shower in the first place, but people I want to make happy really wanted to throw one for me so I'm going along with it. I didn't think it made sense for the shower to be held after I was married, either, so it's happening this year. I live in a area that had a pretty rough spring covid-wise, and is now doing relatively well, but it's going to be a drive-through/Zoom shower for public health reasons.
We postponed the big day to next year but are getting legally married this summer. We were supposed to have a co-ed wedding shower this weekend, but that obviously is not happening. We never really considered a drive-by/zoom one because the only reason I really want one is for people to be able to gather and have fun. So my mother is throwing a shower next year before the big event next fall. Slightly odd that it will be after we are married, but at this point, everything is not normal and I think people are finally starting to realize that. So if the only reason you are hesitant is because of the timing, I personally would not be concerned.