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Bridal shower

L’An, on June 12, 2020 at 12:20 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 11
Is it ok for the bride to pay for there bridal shower? I want my bridal shower to be a certain way. I don’t think my maid of honor will be able to spend on the amount of decor and details I want it to be.


Latest activity by Caitlin, on August 29, 2020 at 12:36 AM
  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think you can suggest to pay for certain things that you want like the decor or just buy some decor and ask for them to use it
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  • Sarah
    April 2021
    Sarah ·
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    I think If there is something specific you want that is a boujee extra than it’s fine to buy it yourself. Like those cute back drops. I would totally buy one for myself!
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  • Jana
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    No. The bride is the guest of honor. People will throw you a shower so don't worry.
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  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
    Nefetera ·
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    I mean not supposed to but in my opinion if you feel noone going to throw I want then you can....
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I think it depends on who is hosting and how you approach it. You aren't supposed to have a role in planning it or hosting it or paying for it, so some people would be offended if you stepped into planning and assumed they couldn't afford/couldn't host an event up to your standards. Other people would be glad you said something. I think you have to feel out your host and see what they would think about you doing this. The last thing you want to do is offend your host.

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  • Llcool_Kay
    Expert July 2021
    Llcool_Kay ·
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    I don’t think you should be paying as the guest of honor. However, it’s totally ok for you to buy decor and then ask for it to be used. Or send her your decor ideas maybe she can get your other friends/other bridesmaids to pitch in
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  • Queen Cone
    Devoted September 2020
    Queen Cone ·
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    My moms paying for mine. i know for fact my bridesmaids would not pay a dime
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  • A
    Super August 2020
    Alex ·
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    Why is decor and details so important for your bridal shower? I think of a bridal shower as a gift from my loved one who are planning it. It would be ungrateful to dictate exactly how it should be or how much to spends.

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  • Brenda
    Savvy August 2020
    Brenda ·
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    I have noticed on here many people are completely against it and I understand why but if you are anything like myself, I cannot have someone else plan an event for me. I took care of most planning for my bridal/wedding shower due to the fact that I wanted a specific venue and it was $1100 to rent and other details that I could not bare ask someone else pay for. My fiance and I are also those friends without babies in our friend group and family and we like to treat ourselves to what we like (while we can). My family provided the food, drinks and alcohol and I took care of the rest because I like things done a certain way. Everyone knows I am like that so it worked out fine. Now closer to my wedding my SIL is throwing me another smaller scale bridal that is a "surpirse" from my girls. Smiley laugh I really think it comes down to you. Def. do what you want because this will be your only bridal party but also take all the help that is offered. Or if someone already offers to host just offer to provide the things you'd like!

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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    These are my feelings, exactly. The decor or venue not being the way you envisioned is not going to make the party any less of a celebration of your wedding. The wedding ceremony and reception are where you and your future spouse get to control every detail.

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  • Caitlin
    Savvy October 2020
    Caitlin ·
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    My mom and maid of honor are “planning” my bridal shower but I’ve been suggesting decor and have bought some things myself. I am very specific with what I want too so I don’t think it’s a big deal. Everyone seems to be ok with it.
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