Is it ok for the bride to pay for there bridal shower? I want my bridal shower to be a certain way. I don’t think my maid of honor will be able to spend on the amount of decor and details I want it to be.
I think it depends on who is hosting and how you approach it. You aren't supposed to have a role in planning it or hosting it or paying for it, so some people would be offended if you stepped into planning and assumed they couldn't afford/couldn't host an event up to your standards. Other people would be glad you said something. I think you have to feel out your host and see what they would think about you doing this. The last thing you want to do is offend your host.
I don’t think you should be paying as the guest of honor. However, it’s totally ok for you to buy decor and then ask for it to be used. Or send her your decor ideas maybe she can get your other friends/other bridesmaids to pitch in
Queen Cone ·
My moms paying for mine. i know for fact my bridesmaids would not pay a dime
Why is decor and details so important for your bridal shower? I think of a bridal shower as a gift from my loved one who are planning it. It would be ungrateful to dictate exactly how it should be or how much to spends.
I have noticed on here many people are completely against it and I understand why but if you are anything like myself, I cannot have someone else plan an event for me. I took care of most planning for my bridal/wedding shower due to the fact that I wanted a specific venue and it was $1100 to rent and other details that I could not bare ask someone else pay for. My fiance and I are also those friends without babies in our friend group and family and we like to treat ourselves to what we like (while we can). My family provided the food, drinks and alcohol and I took care of the rest because I like things done a certain way. Everyone knows I am like that so it worked out fine. Now closer to my wedding my SIL is throwing me another smaller scale bridal that is a "surpirse" from my girls. I really think it comes down to you. Def. do what you want because this will be your only bridal party but also take all the help that is offered. Or if someone already offers to host just offer to provide the things you'd like!
These are my feelings, exactly. The decor or venue not being the way you envisioned is not going to make the party any less of a celebration of your wedding. The wedding ceremony and reception are where you and your future spouse get to control every detail.
My mom and maid of honor are “planning” my bridal shower but I’ve been suggesting decor and have bought some things myself. I am very specific with what I want too so I don’t think it’s a big deal. Everyone seems to be ok with it.