Bridal Shower

I’ve never seen this and wouldn’t attend a monetary shower. Most people will give money as a wedding gift but I personally believe showers are for physical gifts.

I agree with Kelly, The purpose of the shower is to "shower" the couple with gifts. If you don't want to register for anything that people can buy, then simply don't have a shower. Those who attend the wedding will get the hint when you don't have a registry. And most people today give cash at a wedding anyway.

No. The purpose of a shower is to “shower” the bride or the couple with physical gifts. If you don’t want or need them, don’t have a shower. You also shouldn’t be hosting a shower for yourself in the first place.

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My mom is hosting it but I want to be a part of planning it and pick the venue ! If you google people do a honeymoon fund and Its optional the way they write it on invitation.

View Quoted Comment Just because people do it doesn’t mean it isn’t rude. Honeyfunds are controversial for weddings in general, but they’re definitely a no for showers.

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I mean it is a thing because they have invitations for honeymoon fund and people do it Ill probably just have two invitations and put it as a option .

Don't ever put information about gifts or a registry on an invitation. You WILL get talked about, and not in a good way. Honeyfunds charge fees, and a lot of people feel very strongly about them. Of course it's optional, a gift is always optional. If I didn't see a registry for a bridal party, I'd prob get a gift card. I don't think a honeyfund for a bridal shower will go very well with many guests, esp older ones.

My bridemaids put on that we were saving for a honeymoon fund but also had a registry, about half of my gifts at my bridal shower were towards the honeymoon, the rest were gifts from registry. Most people really don’t care if their money went to new silverware or towards a honeymoon based off my experience. And those who didn’t want to do honeymoon just got stuff off registry. Maybe make a small registry with some upgrade stuff and state that you are always saving towards a honeymoon. People coming to your shower are going to know you, and know your not doing it to be rude. I never saw the invites to know the wording I know that just wrote something like registered at xyz store and are looking to save for a honeymoon. I don’t get the issue with it tbh, if your already spending money wouldn’t you want it to be towards something they want vs something they really don’t need

View Quoted Comment The registry should be mentioned on the bridal shower invitation since showers are gift giving events.

Oh and majority of my bridal shower guests were of older generations 🤷🏻‍♀️ (Also don’t do a pre set honeymoon fund because they take a percentage, I set up an account with my travel agent they could call and directly add money but most people just wrote a check)

What did you do for your bridal shower ?

I agree with previous posters. A shower simply for a honeymoon fund seems very silly to me and the older generation would probably be quite offended. While I am not personally against honeymoon funds, I do believe they should be viewed in the same way as a cash gift, ie never ask for it directly.

If you really do not need anything for your home, simply don’t make a registry. Guests will give you money if they want to give you a gift and then just apply it to your honeymoon. Just don’t have a shower.

I usually recommend finding things to upgrade to like if you have an old blender or something.

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Maybe ill just do a small registry.

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I think i will just do a registry now...

We aren’t having a shower because we also don’t NEED anything. I’m going to put a note on the Details Card in the invites. Something about how we aren’t in need of any gifts but for anyone still wanting to give us something, we’re saving up for a delayed honeymoon trip to Europe the following year.

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Which invites are you doing this to?

View Quoted Comment Oh, I apologize! Guess I should have been more specific lol. I meant I was going to put it on the Details Card that goes with the wedding invites but now I’m realizing that doesn’t really make any sense. Maybe I’ll put that little note on the Save the Dates.

Oh ok save the dates is a good idea.

Bridal showers are to shower the bride& it’s to give the bride gifts. Tbh bridal showers aren’t even for the groom. That really isn’t the traditional way, however, it’s becoming common now a days for the groom to have one(kinda weird). Anyways off topic lol. Monetary preferred gifts are only for the actual wedding, not bridal showers. You might as well not have one.