Bridal Shower

There's no harm in an invite. if they decline, that's on them, but you won't cause hurt feeling later.

I think it's nice to at least offer the invitation to them

I don't see what it would hurt to invite them.

Thank you for the input! I think I'll invite them because I don't want do risk them not coming to the wedding

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't invite them to the shower, since they are invited to the wedding.

You have to remember that nobody will be as excited for your wedding as you are. People have lives, jobs, families of their own, and just daily life to keep them busy. You say you haven't heard from them since you got engaged and they congratulated you. How often do you normally interact with these friends? Is this normal, not talking to them that often?

I find that most people get more excited as the wedding date gets closer, and often reach out more. But not always. You have to examine your relationship with these friends before you can decide.

It's my opinion that you should absolutely invite them to the shower. It's their choice whether or not to come.

I would invite them. Leave it up to them not to show bc then ull know youve done your part.

I would just invite them. It won’t hurt. They may not be able to come. My MOH can’t make my shower because she’s not going to travel that far that many times. She’ll come down early for the wedding, but financially it just can’t happen for the shower too.

You should extend the invitation since they are invited to the wedding and if they don't show up then that's on them but at least you then don't have to worry about offending them once you post your pics at a later date.

The thing isn't solely a matter of not leaving them out. When you are invite people to a shower, the reason you do not invite all the women going to the wedding, but only those nearest and dearest, is that people going to a shower are expected to bring a second present , in addition to the wedding present they give. And usually a substantial one. Not a hostess size gift like candles or a pair of wineglasses. So, if these friends had birthdays next month, would you send either of them a gift? Both of them? If they were getting married in 4 months, would you want to get a major, usual wedding gift? Then buy them a second gift from their registry? If you think your mutual friendship is that close, put them on the list of people considered nearest and dearest that you suggest shower hostesses invite them, if they have room. Shower invitations are not just an invite them, it is flattering, type thing. They carry an expectation of a second gift. So the decision maker is, do you exchange gifts on other occasions? And, would you get them a usual wedding gift, and want to get each of them a shower gift also? Also, you mention, a friend and her girlfriend. Maybe only the friend should be invited ( unless it is a couples shower.) if she is the only really close one.