Bridal Shower

It's completely up to the bride's personal preference!

People will offer to host you showers, and some might take offense to their offer being turned down. If your mom is offering to throw you one though, I think since she's your mom, that having that conversation isn't a terrible idea. If you don't want one, then you don't have to have one!

Is there a certain reason why you don't want one? I know some brides don't like the silly games, or opening up gifts in front of guests. If that's the issue, then you could always skip these, and still have a fun little shower!

Completely optional and entirely up to you! A lot of young couples like having them since they typically need a lot of household items. Older couples or those who have already lived together for some time typically don’t need the items you receive at a shower; so a lot of them either don’t have one or have a modified version (such as registering for needed items for an animal shelter, or doing a “stock the bar” party).

As the PP'ers have said, they are entirely optional. If you don't want one, I would just tell your mom it's not for you. However, I will say, they can be a lot of fun! I enjoyed our showers.

View Quoted Comment The main reason for not wanting one is because my fiance and I have already been living together for a while so we dont really need anything

I think it is totally a personal preference! There are so many ways to make it personal to the bride (or couple!). My sister, who is my Matron of Honor, offered to throw me one, but I declined because 1. We live in different states and don't want either of us to travel for it, 2. My fiancé and I have lived together for many years and don't need anything and 3. I don't have more than 3 or 4 people to invite.

I did accept her offer for a bachelorette party, but that may just be a spa day or something due to COVID and again, I don't really have anyone to invite.

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Gotcha! That's how we are, so we just had major upgrades of what we already have listed on our registry. I like the suggestions that Chrysta mentioned! I went to a 'stock their bar' shower and it was really fun! Every one brought different types of nice wine, liquor, so if you both like those things that's a fun option!

If you still don't want to have one, then that's perfectly fine! Plenty of couples opt out of having showers for the same reason you mentioned.

I had so much fun at mine. But I’ve seen a lot of people skip the pre-wedding events if they don’t have the time

It’s completely optional- if you want one than have one, if you don’t then skip it. I’m not having one- in fact we’re not registered anywhere. We only have a honeymoon fund set up.

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This is a perfectly reasonable reason not to want one. And since you don't want one, I can't really imagine you regretting NOT having one. I didn't want one, didn't have one, and don't regret it.

I would definitely have a virtual one

We are kind of in the same boat as you, I've been living with my FH for 5.5 years now and we really don't need anything. We are opting to do a Jack and Jill instead because we wanted to have something. We are doing a bunch of games and stuff to celebrate. Also, I will say I hate bridal showers LOL. I think they're incredibly boring, which is why I didn't want one for myself.

I’m having what we’ve dubbed a “Bachelorette Shower” which is kind of both. My sister and some of my friends hated their Bridal Showers and regretted doing that instead of a bachelorette party, so we found a middle ground. There will be weenies and games, but nothing overboard. If you’ve seen Gilmore Girls, it’s gonna kind of be like the “bachelorette” party Lorelei throws her mother.

I don’t think I am going to have one. My FH and I have been together 8 years and pretty set. Although I like the “stock their bar” party option mentioned earlier