Bridal shower

I think November-December would be tricky because most people are taking off of work for the holidays and traveling more than usual. Is it an option to have it maybe around the beginning of January? You can really have your bridal shower as early as 3 months before your wedding, so January would be a good time!

Otherwise, if September-December works best for you, then do it! I'd lean more into having it during October/early November though! That way you get it done before the holiday rush and traveling begins.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your response. I totally agree and that was my thoughts as well. We have a cousins wedding in October and everyone’s a bit offended as if you are taking their spotlight so I was trying to work around it. It’s just a lot do weddings at once.

I personally think anytime more than a couple months prior to the wedding date is too early for a shower. So ideally sometime in 2022. However, if the only days that work for you are earlier then be clear about it. People can come or not come if they are invited!

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Have people actually said that to you?? I mean whether they have or haven't, I would still have the shower in October since that would probably work best if January isn't a good time for you. It's not fair for people to expect you to dedicate and schedule an ENTIRE MONTH around their wedding which is for ONE DAY.

Couples get ONE DAY for their wedding...not an entire month. Just because they're getting married in October doesn't mean you or anyone else can't be celebrated or have things going on in October as well.

Nov/Dec you have to work around Christmas and other holidays, many having year to year traditions you cannot break. Good Luck. The point is to have other people come and that can be hard then.

View Quoted Comment The couple themselves didn’t but other family members have said things.. could just be the other family members versus the couple.

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I personally think that's rude of them to suggest things like that. As long as you don't have it THE DAY of the wedding or week of, why does it even matter??

I stand by what I say, either January would work if your schedule permits it, or have it in October. If family members want to be petty and not come because it's the same month as the wedding, then they won't come. It shows a lot about their character in my opinion.

View Quoted Comment Totally. Thanks for your advice!!!

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You're welcome! It may come off as harsh the way I said it, but people need to realize that everyone has different things going on in their lives, and that you don't get an entire week or month blocked off for yourself just because of your wedding.

You need to do what works the best for YOU and YOUR schedule, not anyone else's.

As others have said, having the shower in November or December will likely conflict with others schedules due to the holidays and everyone being very busy. I think October is way too early to have a shower for a March wedding. I would shoot for January if you can.

Do what works best. If October works best with your work schedule, great. If November/December works with your work schedule, make sure you send invites out EARLY so they don’t get lost in the mail with Christmas packages and cards. If January works, awesome. There’s no rule on when you can have it. My bridal shower is 5 months early due to other family obligations in the way and my mom didn’t want to risk hurricane season ruining it. Having your bridal shower 1-3 months before your wedding is standard, but not the rule.

We just had our shower this weekend (May 1st), and our wedding isn’t until September 5th. Some may say that’s too far in advance, but after having to reschedule both our shower and wedding about 3-4 times due to the pandemic, we said screw it and did what worked for us and our Moms who worked so hard to plan it!


Which brings me to my point that you should do the shower when it works for you, as it’s YOUR shower. Of course try to be mindful of holidays and other events within the family, but if October-November is what works best for you, then go with that. You want to have a wonderful day for your shower guests to enjoy, but ultimately it’s a day to celebrate you and should work with your schedule.
After the whirlwind of COVID and 2020, I think the rule book has been thrown out for weddings. Do what works best for you

I would wait till January or early February when you don’t compete with holiday schedules.

View Quoted Comment It is easy to get caught up in wedding things and think about outside of weddings. These folks may not have been saying thre were weddings for a few months to crete time for attention time for those couples. Rather, for the guests, and the family and wedding party to turn some aspect of life toward something but wedding, wedding, wedding. We have already definite plans for 3 summer weddings and two in September this next year. A few we will turn down. Too much, or too far. When are we supposed to get things done with kids, have family vacations, celebrate turning leaves, and have a world of special things for any of the biggest religious groups with Sept to Jan 1 holidays? plus Thanksgiving? I fairly often missed prewedding things in this time , for baby things, kids parties , Advent Sunday things with Grandparents. Time when I say No, don't care who you are, I am attending to other things than peoples weddings.The lowest number of weddings a year is Jan- early April. But if you start moving parties from May and June weddings back to the already busiest time, guest stop going. It isn't that these late summer and early fall months are needed to spread out those weddings. Just to have time in the busiest time of the year to do something else. So please, don't back late spring stuff unless of dire necessity. Leave it for the years busiest religious and seasonal holidays, about 9 of which are Sept 1 to Jan 5.

View Quoted Comment Ok Judith. Totally get what you’re saying. I was totally trying to be considerate of holidays as well . I’m not ignorant to the season In anyway.

Early November sounds like a good time to avoid holidays and also avoid peak wedding season. Who cares if it is early? If that is when it works for you then do it then.

View Quoted Comment Thanks !! I appreciate all the feedback