Bridal Shower woes

The man you love is about to pledge his entire life to you in two weeks.....nothing else matters. Bask in the happiness of all that is about to be and there won't be room for sadness.

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You are right, totally 100%. Thank you.

I understand how you are feeling. Maybe you can tell your FH how you are feeling, and he might be able encourage his sisters to do something.

I understand your disappointment, but unfortunately there's not much you can do. Like a PP said, remember that you're going to be with your FH forever! Try not to harbor resentment towards his family because there could be an underlying reason they aren't throwing you a shower. Keep your head up, girl

Maybe express this to your fiance, and you could at least plan a lunch with the women in his family or something celebratory?

Don't be afraid to plan something for yourself! Its hard to ask others to plan something for you, but if it's the bachelorette party experience you are looking for, I think its acceptable to plan a night out for you and a few friends to let loose!

I know how you feel hun. Last month my fiance had his bachelor party with like 15 of his best friends out of state at a mansion. What was I doing? Traveling from Alaska to Oregon to wedding plan. In general, I have done all of the planning. I was happy I had a bridal shower that weekend, but with the stress of it all, then none of his dad's side coming (his parents are divorced), it kind of put a damper on the day. I also am not really having a bachelorette so it is easy to feel sad. But try to think positively about it and realize that ultimately, it isn't that important. But your feelings are very valid.

Thank you all so much for your words of encouragement. It's really hard moving overseas and not having my own friends or family in the new place that I live. I haven't really made any friends here, but my fiancé's family is quite big and they're very close, lots of girls around my age, so I've been lucky that way. It stings a little to think that while my fiancé was thought of enough to have a party thrown for him (all day and evening, might I add, with lots of activities and surprises), no one has thought to do anything for me, especially knowing that I'm kind of alone here. The only thing I can think of as to why I'm not having one is because maybe they figured I already had one back in LA with my friends, so why throw one for me here, but I would've loved to have been thought of by his family. I remember being invited to his sister's bachelorette party last year and thinking how lovely it was that they all came together to do that for her, but.. I guess not for me. I tried to talk to him about it but I didn't like the idea of him asking his sister to throw something for me because I asked, so I told him not to say anything to anyone unless other people brought it up. It just wouldn't feel special; it would feel like I forced people to or that I orchestrated it and that just wouldn't feel right. For once I'd like to not have to do everything myself.

Well....think of it this way -- since they are celebrating so hard with him, they must be so happy for him, and therefore must think you are the right woman for him. That's a compliment in itself. And you're right, they must be thinking that since your friends & family did something for you in the US, they should do something for him there. (Did your friends & family also do something for him?)
I get that you are in a strange environment, but I would really try to focus on the positive (upcoming wedding where you will surely be the star of the day!). Make this the adventure you set it out to be when you decided to move there!!! Go out and do something new & fun for yourself - enjoy every minute!

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My friends and family didn't exactly do anything for me in the US besides showing up, haha.. I organized the entire shower myself, no one offered to help except for my mom by default. If it had been thrown for me, that would've been different. Oh well, I'm so tired from my new job anyway (today was my 2nd day!) that I'm happy just sitting at home binge watching Jane the Virgin which is near impossible to do when my fiancé is home.. and i have a whole bowl of popcorn to myself! lol. Thank you so much for your advice.